am i more atractted to males because of exposer to gay sex at 10

I don't know where you heard this, but I absolutely don't believe it. Being exposed to any kind of sex at age ten is FAR too young to be sexualized, and can certainly be traumatic and have long-term effects. But it will not change your orientation. Nothing changes our orientation.

 

Well lets see...

Before I answer you question, I will agree with Wildside, saying that our orientation cannot be changed. From birth, you were given an orientation, and as you grow up you'll discover more about yourself.

With that said, traumatic experiences can most definitely lead to confusion in your sexuality, but that is not for me to say about you. I can say that it has definitely caused me confusion, though.

Sexual orientation is very complex. It simply cannot be defined by porn/fantasies, or traumatic experiences. There's a lot more to consider. It's not just who you have sex with, but who you are in love with. That's what sexual orientation means to me. Personally, I've always seen guys as friends, so at the moment I cannot date guys. Maybe in the future (if I'm happier with a guy that is), but at the moment I just don't see it happening.

The emotional/romantic attraction with guys just isn't there at the moment. Maybe in the near future but right now it's just not going to happen.

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Talking to your therapist about that would be very wise. There's not much we can do here at EC because traumatic experiences isn't something EC can help you , at least not from a professional standpoint.

You have every right to believe past experiences lead to your questioning, so talk to someone you can trust and go from there.

 

I don't agree with Jax12 on the porn fantasies, as they are an indication in some way. Whereas watching porn is passive, having fantasies about something is a much more active way. However, he's right about about orientation being determined when you are very young (from birth), just like Wildside said.

 

From what I know, it doesn't make any difference. It's like taking a tiger and putting it into a paddock with a whole lot of cows. No matter how you try, it's not going to just stand peacefully, eating grass and mooing. That's not it's nature. It's a tiger, not a cow.

I don't think that, if you really are attracted to either guys or girls, that you will not be able to figure it out, considering that you are open to both possibilities. Lets say you got a boyfriend and had lots of gay sex and enjoyed it. Well I think that if you are actually not gay, that would still not stop you from one day meeting some woman who the sight, sound, smell and touch of enthralled you. If you really liked women you would know, or you will know, you will find out. If you are a tiger, you can't become a leopard, or as cow, or anything else. Even if you get put into a paddock or whatever. We can try to fight Nature, but in the end Nature will prevail.

So the short answer is, no, I don't think so.

 

Interesting

 

Let me rephrase. What I meant to say was that porn fantasies and whatnot can be clues to your sexuality but don't necessarily determine it. Many people don't watch porn because they just don't need to, while others like myself need to watch it because there is a motive. There is a level of satisfaction that needs to be fulfilled, and porn does that. Porn/fantasies alone are motivated by a lot of what we want. It becomes so taboo because in reality we know we can't have it, which is why people like myself turn to porn.

This so called "want" that I'm referring to is what I mean by the inaccuracy of using porn to determine your orientation. Mind you, there are individuals who will identify as straight and still watch and enjoy gay sex. Likewise, there are lesbians who watch gay porn, have sex with men, and still identify as lesbian. Why this is, I'm not sure. But that's where the individual has to find out for themselves.

If I continue to tell you not to eat take cookie from the cookie jar repeatedly, how much more likely are you to take the cookie if I didn't tell you at all?

 

What do you mean by exposure at 10 pokemonfan4life?

 

Who knows, maybe there is a reason why you're more attracted to males, but whether you find out the reason or not you're still attracted to males, right? I guess it's more settling if you find out yourself since it calms your mind.

I would be more concerned about how you feel in reality. If you can imagine yourself dating either gender then that's great, because that's where I am right now and it's a struggle. I feel like some part of me still doesn't want to accept that I can date guys because the sexual attraction to guys is there, whether it's motivated by past experiences or not. Maybe as I grow older I'll date guys, but right now I suppose the concept is still too new to me.

Making older men happy is all I think of at the moment.

 

Yeah thanks, I mean where else would I start haha. At least for an older guy he's been got a lot of experience and luckily he's really nice so he's not he guy to take advantage of a young dude.

 

I know what you meant to say, as I've seen your other replies too. :icon_bigg Sorry, I should've included that, that I knew what you meant.

I honestly don't really believe in the "straight people" having sex with members of the same-sex for fun, I do think there are some bi tendencies that motivate it. OR the straight person has no other option available, because sexual frustration might make people indifferent (in prisons for instance).

Those things have no influence on me if I know what kind of cookie it is, actually. Sorry. I can tell you all day that you shouldn't eat poop, and I guess it won't make you more likely to take it. That's the analogy that makes more sense. Quite some straight people are not interested in gay sex at all.

 

Hi there.

Nobody knows why people are heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual etc etc. but I'm pretty sure, growing up, I was exposed way more to heterosexuality than homosexuality... and I'm gay.

 

good point. I had heterosexual parents, brother and sister. My father and brother got playboy, which my friends and I looked at when I was seven years old. My friends in high school and college had porn that I saw. And yet, it turned out that I'm gay. Am I more attracted to males because of exposure to straight porn at age 7? obviously not. again, good point, Robert!