Possibly bisexual? HELP please

"So I find that I've seen pretty much everything one can see in straight porn and that's why there's no arousal when it comes to straight porn at all any more..."

I don't know if porn is the best indicator because in many ways its voyeuristic nature lends itself to having to see something new and titillating each time to get off. So if you develop a reliance on pornography to get off but then start finding the pornography boring there is an obvious problem. Of course then to solve that people can either try and look outside of porn for sexual gratification, or move on to more extreme and unusual categories they may not have viewed before just to get that titillation of something new and different.

The fact you only say its a little arousing sounds to me like maybe its just the fact its something new and different that is interesting, but that you aren't really interested in what is going on so much. The fact that in one of your previous posts you wrote:

"Then my orientation has definitely changed in some respect. I've found I've become attracted to some guys and tgirls (transsexual women) because the thought of having sex with a male who possess both male and female characteristics is somehow arousing to me."

If you are only finding these scenarios involving what would be considered more niche segments of pornography arousing. Yet are not inclined to actually act on them in real life I would say its simply that you have become too reliant on porn to get off. As is common pornography gets less and less appealing as it becomes more routine and expected. Hence the slow migration to more niche and extreme types of pornography to continue to get the desired arousal.

Do you often try to masturbate without pornography, if so what do you fantasize about? If mentally you fantasize more consistently about heterosexual sex, I would say you don't have much to worry about. Except a possible porn addiction which can be problematic.

 

It is possible that a therapist may be able to help determine the root of what is causing you to only fantasize about individuals with male genitalia. It is quite an odd occurrence that you cannot maintain a mental image of a woman with female genitalia while fantasizing sexually and I am unsure as to why this would be.

I presume in your fantasies that despite the objects of your imagination having penises that you take the penetrative role as opposed to being the one penetrated? If so, what is it about them having a penis that you think you find attractive or arousing?

 

It is quite possible that the proclivity towards anal sex stems from pornography, I think I recall Vice did a piece on how it has become extremely popular in pornography and thus become more popular amongst people.

This would be very much a shot in the dark, but perhaps because culturally anal sex is seen more as the second/lesser of vaginal sex, and something that people do in lieu of vaginal sex (ie: gay guys). That you have mentally associated the act of anal sex with people who lack female genitalia and ergo imagine that the people you are having sex with have male genitalia. Again, I am no psychologist so that is just a guess. A proper sex therapist could probably provide you with a better analysis of your situation.

From the sounds of it though I would say you sound like you are fairly straight. Obviously the overall physical package you seem to prefer is female from what I can gather from your posts. Even though you imagine them as having penises it doesn't sound as if you are interested in doing anything with them (giving them head, riding them, et cetera) so that says to me that its just a minor quirk in an an otherwise straight fantasy. Trying to work over the issues in you mind or with a therapist as to why your fantasies all involve people with male genitalia would probably help. There is nothing wrong with being more of butt and legs guy, plenty of my straight friends are that way.

Experimenting with a woman to see how things work out in real life is probably the best way to alleviate your anxiety and figure out what you really like. On that matter I can't be of too much help though as I have no idea how one goes about picking up ladies.

 

It's tricky when you start using porn to determine your sexuality. If anything, porn may confuse you even more. If you are addicted to porn as much as I was, then that's a problem. Talking to my therapist made me realize that. If I didn't seek outside help I'm sure I would still be using porn. I'm one month free now, and still figuring out my sexuality. But all I can say is porn is like a drug. The effects of it on your brain are no different when smoking or using the typical drugs out there.

Since you've also have OCD, I will assume that anxiety is also a factor in your confusion. So start off by cutting the porn and go from there. Might take a while, but it'll benefit you in the long run.

There's too many reasons why people watch porn, with the taboo factor being a part of it. Just because you are gay that doesn't mean you can't get off to lesbian porn, and vice versa. Proves to show that porn doesn't always match up with orientation.

 

First of all, I agree the twerk position is a turn on for me 2 LOL

I could be your only a little tired of masturbating and a problem with testoserone but I wouldn't make guesses before you have sex

 

Porn in general isn't good for you. If you can casually watch it with no addiction affects then that's fine but if you're hooked onto it then you need to stop. And about those gay fantasies, that's around the same time I started having those thoughts as well. But I found that after I masturbated to them, my mknd became more clear and the gay thoughts went away, almost like what an OCD sufferer goes through.

Not sure about the whole rebooting process cause I haven't done it. Give the rebooting a shot, and see how it goes. You don't know unless you try, right?

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Oh same here haha. There was a part in Iggy Azalea's music video "Work" where her ass was basically focused on and I thought DAMN.

 

You could try to do things that takes your mind off it or preoccupy yourself.

Remember masturbation in general isn't bad but you can't over use it!

 

I'm trying to masturbate less, but it's hard. So don't try to completely cut off all your bad habits it addictions. You'll also need to substitute something over porn/masturbation. Attempting to cut off a habit without replacing it with a better one only makes it harder for you to change.

I fap a lot too, but try to keep myself busy as much as I can. Don't expect to change immediately, but understand that breaking habits take time.

I'm also seeing a psychologist right now, and I'm glad im able to talk to her cavity these things. Hope your therapist can do the same.