I'm very unsure what to classify myself. Yes, I know I don't have to have a label to live my life but I just feel like I've lost my "identity" if you understand me? I am a natural born female who identifies with the female gender, i am in a relationship with a natural born male who identifies with the male gender. BUTand that is a very big but, I am also attracted to females. Your first answer would probably be "OK well then you're Bi-sexual". Here the deal though, I am sexually, emotionally, and physically attracted to men, but I am only physically attracted to females. While I can be turned on and attracted women I have no desire to have sex or such with a woman. Does that make sense? Bi-sexual or pan-sexual just don't seem to fit right for me. I like men, I like women But I don't like like women ? *sigh* I'm confused for nothing aren't I? This should just be an easy answer for me shouldnt it?
Labels just aren't that great. I'm quite lost as well, so not sure if I can help you much. I mean, in the end, the label you choose is the label that you are most comfortable with, and represents you the most. I for one, feel that there is something for girls. I obviously cannot explain it, but I know something is there, so identifying as gay would be lying to myself. Many times I'll bounce between gay/straight/bi just from how I feel from day to day and how bad my anxiety is. Another thing to note is that I'm not your typical "gay/bi guy in denial". Never once have I tried to suppress my feelings, and hoped that it was a stage. Right now, I'm trying to figure out what everything means, and to be honest none of it really makes sense. Even if bi/pan doesn't fit for you now, I think you should consider exploring these feelings. How you explore them I cannot say, since I'm new to this as well, but I recommend looking back at your past attractions and see how they might align with who you are now. I mean, it's so common for girls to make out with other girls and still identify as straight. Why this concept does not work for guys I cannot say, but I believe that anything is possible since in the end, you know yourself better than anyone.
