Hello everyone, i believe i need some help and let me tell you a bit of what's happening Im a male, 21yo and im not sure if im gay/hetero/bi. I've had sexual intercourse with both men and women, but i dont feel attraction to any of them, not men or women does attract me. I dont look at them on the street and think they're hot, its just that i have some urge sometimes and well... I convinced myself i must be gay, i even told my family i am. Im now in some kind of a relationship with a guy... but it feels hollow. If doesnt feels right, it feels like there's something missing, im not confortable in saying im gay, but i wish i was. I made myself believe im gay, but sometimes it doesnt feel like i am. I also dont imagine myself in the future with another guy, i wish i had a wife and kids. But i do like this guy. I also have this little problem which drives me crazy, i have E.D, as i said i dont feel anyone attractive to get me hard. Maybe its because i've looked so much into porn, i dont know. Well, its maddening. Just thought it would be a good thing to share here and maybe someone here has some kind of tip they could give me...
Welcome to EC. Porn can cause ED if used too often. And about the urges you experience, I go through that as well, especially with men. Saying that a guy is hot doesn't feel natural to me. Makes it seem like I'm trying to force myself to believe it. As for the sex, it's possible that you were experimenting, and that's that, no harm done. I've attempted to convince myself that I was gay/bi countless times but it always backfires. Sometimes I wish I was gay and I wouldn't have to go through all this confusing shit. I just want to be happy. But what is it that you like about this guy? And could you go into girls more?
I've done it countless times, i like it. I wouldnt consider experimentation to be honest. I like him, we've got the same taste on a lot of things. I believe i could go into girls more, problem is that nowadays i am afraid of it because of the E.D... haha, screw me. And i know what you mean, i would like to just say "Im gay" and thats it. I told other people i am, but apparently i can only convince others, but not myself. But a problem i also have is that i dont find anyone "hot" except when im into the "act" already. I like him, but i dont know if i truly love him... i like his personality, he's great, but i feel that the relationship with another man is kinda hollow... Its hard to explain, but im sure there's at least someone in here that understands me
I know what you mean. When I'm in the act, or doing something with a man, only then will I focus on the pleasure and the guy because, well, it feels good to get stimulated so... Why not? Maybe speaking to a professional about this may help?
