So I've posted on here a few times now about questioning my sexuality. I quit porn a few weeks ago but last night i had a girl I've been talking to come over...needless to say i was to horny to hold back. We ended up having sex which was amazing but as soon as i orgasm'd it was like this rush of anxiety came over me and i had to ask myself if i liked it which then brought on more questioning. Its like my mind finds a way to cling onto these thoughts and obsessions no matter WHAT it is. I look back on it and think I clearly had to like it because i was too turned on to keep my dick in my pants. I can't take this anymore. It's been over 2 years of constant confusion
Well if your horny for a woman your obviously straight! Try to have intercourse with a guy and see if you like it. If you do your bi ---------- Post added 8th Mar 2015 at 03:09 PM ---------- P.s I sent a friend request
if i was that willing to go out and have sex with a man, i don't think there would be much to be confused about haha. I was just curious if anyone else has had this happen? it's like i felt instantly depressed after the orgasm.
I've been there. It doesn't mean something must be wrong, but there might be a few things on the backstage that are bothering you. To make the matter more complicated, after orgasm is normal to feel sometimes a bit down, it's a biological mechanism to make you come down after the rush. Otherwise you wouldn't come back, you know... What was it exactly, what you felt?
Its hard to pinpoint how i felt in that moment but maybe some guilt and regret. I automatically thought "why did you just do that, you mite not even be straight" but i loved every single second of it up until i came. It was almost like a chemical shift the second i released all the questioning surfaced again. ---------- Post added 9th Mar 2015 at 08:47 AM ---------- One thing i want to add now that i think back on it, even before i started questioning my sexuality , as soon as i would orgasm with any girl i would automatically be almost put off by them. I hated cuddling and kissing i kind of just wanted to be left alone after.
Wanting to be left alone afterwards I can relate to. I always want to wash, and fall asleep. Are you seeking any therapy for your questioning?
Well I had sex with a guy today and the whole thing felt OK. It wasn't the best experience in the world, and I had a difficult time to orgasm. But besides the point, when I saw he was enjoying it, I held myself back from saying anything even though I wasn't really enjoying it. When he was talking dirty, I would respond back because well, if you don't then something is obviously wrong... Wanting to be alone after the sex is something I could relate to as well. You could say I enjoyed spending time with him but not having sex with him if that makes sense... I felt like I meant something when he wrapped his arms around me, and held me close like I mattered... I found myself opening my eyes as we made out a couple times to see if he was enjoying himself, which is quite odd. Well clearly for you and me, sex didn't really "prove" anything, at least for me it didn't.
No, unfortunately i'm on bed rest because of health related issues and surgery's for the next 6 months. I've been trying to use this forum as help in the mean time
Jax12, im no professional clearly and correct me if i'm wrong but something tells me you went into your experiment with the wrong mindset bud. I've read a lot of your posts and this was your first sexual encounter, period? I'm 25 and have had sex with over 200 women at this point and no i'm not proud of my actions, but trust me, more than once the sex felt just "OK". I don't think you going around and sleeping with random guys is going to help your confusion. In fact, it may make things worse. Who the hell am i to say though! I don't even know my own sexuality.
I think the time when I least enjoyed sex was when I was questioning. It felt unfulfilling and I would build it up so much in my mind that when it did finally happen it wasn't what I expected. Even now that I've decided to accept my sexuality more I still want more I wish my boyfriend were more comfortable with me getting some! I can relate to being annoyed by kissing and cuddling afterwards. It's not a guy thing, I've had that happen to me with men and women. That was more a side effect of hooking up with someone though. It didn't happen much with a girlfriend and it doesn't really happen with my boyfriend either.
You are correct. After speaking with my psychologist today, I'm pretty damn sure that I'm not 100% straight, I'm predominantly straight. I'll have sex with older men from time to time, but to me that does not mean bisexual. To me, bisexual means that I would date both genders. I don't date guys, simple as that. I can have sex with guy but a relationship will not follow. I know myself well enough to say that. I'm 18 and I've never had a crush or feelings for a guy. Having sex with that guy did show something, though. Showed me that I enjoyed being acknowledged by older men because my dad never gave me that. He didn't tell me that I was worth something, or worth anything for that matter. It's true that parental issues do not relate to your sexual orientation. For me, father issues resulted in my homosexual behavior, but does not change the fact that I like girls. You'll know when it feels right or wrong, whether it's because of societal norms or not.
Hi AnomJB. Yes, what you're describing is a thing. It's called post-coital depression or post-coital tristesse (not that I'm in any way qualified to diagnose such things, I'm not a doctor). A straight friend of mine confided that he always gets depressed after sex, and also finds the girl really unattractive for hours afterwards. He basically deals with it by only having sex just before going to sleep. He's fine when he wakes up.
He told me that in the same conversation in which I came out to him. There's a funny thing about coming out to close friends - it seems to induce them to tell you some great secret of their own, and I've now learned a lot about some people. Although as I get more nonchalant about it, that's happening less and less...
