"Do you like boys?"

I remember being asked this question more than once as a teenager! It was the cause of great confusion, both for myself and the casual observer who asked the question...

Of course, I always said "Yes!" Because I did! I liked boys and men, not many of them but definitely certain ones, with certain characteristics - a slim build, not much muscle, longish hair, long eyelashes, a nice jawline... (guess what, this perfectly describes my ideal physical type, and out of that list only the jawline can be classed as a typical masculine trait!) :icon_wink

But my college friends, it seems, did not mean that - they meant different boys, boys with muscle, and lots more boys, or boys-in-general (whatever that means!) They were luke-warm about my type of boy, just as I was luke-warm about theirs!

So in the eyes of my straight friends, I didn't really like boys at all... although as far as I'm concerned, I did!! So you see how confused someone can be about what it means when someone questions who they are attracted to... words can have so many different meanings... :eusa_doh:

 

No, I just meant that my friends didn't fancy those types of guys whereas I did. I didn't know many boys well enough then to have a relationship so it was mostly based on appearance, yes. But when I did start getting to know guys, it was always the bisexual guys I got feelings for, never straight ones (before I knew the guys were bi). Sometimes a guy won't look so feminine but his personality will be, and thats when I fall for him!

I know they are guys, but I now realise that if I can fancy such feminine traits in men, then of course I can fancy women as well. I don't fancy pure masculinity at all - butch lesbians are usually too butch for me, same as straight men!

I'm kinda like a gay man in a woman's body which is really annoying!!! But I like a few girls, too..

 

I'm not trans (although I'm starting to feel as if my brain is!) :eusa_doh:

I don't fancy *all* bisexuals, its just the people I do fancy always turn out to be bi, and then I realise why i.e. they all have the kinds of traits I go for. Attraction definitely works for me like this, and I know that many bisexual people do agree, although not all.

I am just trying to work out my sexuality. No, it doesn't have to mean I fancy women with those same traits even if I fancy feminine men, but it seems that I do fancy some women, if that makes sense. I just think if I fancied more masculine guys, then I'd be more likely to be straight, but I think I'm actually in denial of being bi, and might like more women than I have let myself so far.

I fancied feminine men 20 years ago, heck 25 years ago, and still do today. I have never fancied straight, masculine men

Why is it that people seem to get offended when I post this stuff? These are not myths, they are the workings of my mind, which I am trying hard to figure out!

 

No worries Only I don't think my sexuality "works" for anyone, especially not me... I feel like it's the most dysfunctional sexual orientation possible!

Let's hope that might change soon with one of the 2 lovely guys at work, and the lovely girl too! :icon_wink

I don't think it predisposed me though, I think I liked women anyway but suppressed it.. I have loved feminine, androgynous guys all my life. I think I just love femininity but feel more comfortable when it comes in a male body, although I can enjoy it in females too of course, but not without feeling really awkward!