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I'm worried about being straight again

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by sporn, Mar 12, 2015.

  1. sporn

    sporn Guest

    I'm mainly worried about being straight because of one guy. He's pretty good at guitar and I love music. So I'm naturally interested in him. I'm super scared of being attracted to him. I get nervous around him and I'm scared that means I'm attracted. I'm getting butterflies thinking about him, but no warm and fuzzy feelings. I did get warm and fuzzy feelings for the girl I liked, but I only got butterflies because of her once. I'm scared that I have a real crush on him and my feelings for that girl were just admiration.
     
  2. Aro

    Aro
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    That does not have to be so. You can have feelings for anyone you like. It's always scary having to reevaluate an aspect of yourself, but instead of being afraid, maybe treat it as a discovery instead. You don't have to adhere to one label, you know? c: Let yourself be who you want to be. Your heart will tell you what feels right and what feels wrong to you. You don't have to pressure yourself. Just because you had feelings for a girl in your life does not mean you can't have feelings for a guy. Maybe you're biromantic? It doesn't even have to be defined just in romanticism. You might be attracted to relationships/personalities in one gender and sexually in another.

    In either case, it's always a journey of self-discovery when you're dealing with things. I completely understand that it makes you worried to the point of probably being nauseous sometimes (at least in my experience!). My point is that it's okay to like whoever you want to. It may go outside the box that you've expected, but that's not a bad thing, you know? Try to relax. And if you ever need someone to just talk to, I'm here to chat.

    Please take care. c: