Am I gay or still bi? First of, I know most people will say, who cares about labels, just be who you are. But for me I really find a label important. It helps define me more and makes a more solid identity. So I want to ask people here on EC about what you think will define me more. Gay or bi? I previously only liked girls until 2013 when I had my first crush on a guy. Since then I've only had crushes on guys. But even with that I still find a few girls beautiful. Since I used to only like them girls then it's like natural for me to know who is beautiful. But now I do not feel any want to be with them unlike before. Just acknowledgement of their beauty. I'm a 20 year old guy and I will say I watch porn. Previously I only watch straight porn but now I watch gay porn more. Well sometimes I still watch straight but I get somewhat bored. Yeah I can get aroused seeing a naked woman but I don't really feel much enjoyment seeing them naked. In truth I never found boobs really attractive. It feels like I'm curious to see them because I don't usually see them and know how they work but that's about it. I feel like not being able to touch boobs will not be a great matter to me. But a guy's junk, well it's a different story. I definitely like and enjoy seeing it. It's not just curiousity like when looking at girl parts but, it's like this is what's telling me that I'm gay. Vajayjay and boobs, I feel I can live without touching one in real life but a guy's junk, I'll definitely take an offer just so I could play with another guy's. Offer me vajayjay or boobs, I can definitely pass on them. And even with this I still can't decide whether I'm really gay or bi. Because girls can still arouse me but I don't feel anything that makes me want to date a girl. Now it's even hard to imagine myself kissing one, which is the whole opposite of me just 1 and a half year ago where I couldn't imagine myself kissing a guy. Now I fantasize about guys. Why can I get aroused with seeing a pic of a naked girl when I don't enjoy looking at it? What I mean when I said don't enjoy is there's not much satisfaction compared to seeing a hot, ripped naked guy. Just seeing boobs makes me want to skip the picture but yet I can still get hard if I look at it. And I hate this so much. Why can't I just get aroused with men only? I know I like men now and has very little interest to girls, almost none when it comes to dating and doing stuff with them. Thing is, I just don't want to be bi. I want to be sure of myself and confidently say who I really like and not be confused. So am I gay or am I bi? Does being able to be aroused by a girl make me bi even if I don't want to be with a girl? So confused but I like to think of myself as gay. What do you guys think?
I think that you might be gay. For me it was around the end of 2012 when I first started question my sexuality. My transition (of sorts) wasn't much different from yours. In high school I only ever watched straight porn (although in retrospect I probably paid more attention to the guys in pornos than the girls). It was only after I left school that I started checking out guys and watching gay porn. At that time, I thought I was bi for a while because I would still get aroused by the sight of naked girls. I think (for me) it was just my hormones at work. If I looked at a stick long enough it would've made me hard haha. Anyway, I'm pretty sure I'm gay now. My opinion is based on my experiences so you may very well not be but yeah, just my 2c.
Thanks for that. That's what is really bothering me, getting aroused even when I'm not interested in girls anymore. So can you still get aroused by a girl now that you're sure you're gay or has it completely become only guys that can turn you on?
I don't watch straight porn anymore but I'm pretty sure I'd get aroused by it if I did. I haven't checked out girls in a long time though.
Hey im going through the same thing at the moment, i started watching straight porn and never had any idea what else existed out there, thats when i came across shemale porn and even when i felt guilty or confused watching it there was something about a cock and that it was different to normal porn i would be so turned on i hardly ever watch straight porn anymore! I have now found gay porn and at the start i felt bad after i would cum... I was worried i was becoming gay or Bi after being straight whole life but i can accept that even if get turned on by watching something its not always the same in real life! I still dont know if i will ever be 100 Percent bi or its just a fantasy that turns me on... Ive experimented with a few guys and still dont have a answer but eveyones different! You could always experiment with a few guys and see how you like it!
I can totally relate with you about needing a label, I feel it definitely helps solidify my identity and overall makes me feel more comfortable and confident in my own skin. That being said, I think you're gay. I'm a lesbian, but there are times when I notice an attractive man. Not in the kind of way like I'm sexually aroused or fantasize about dating him or have any desire to talk/flirt with him, but just like in a way that I can appreciate good looking people in general. I think that people, no matter what their orientation will definitely notice if someone is good looking or not, but noticing an attractive member of the opposite sex doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that. Looking at boobs from a point of curiosity is certainly much different than looking at them and being aroused
