As a bisexual woman the only people I have told about my sexuality are the people I have dated, mainly men. I have often found that when I have admitted to them that I am a bisexual, they fetishise and trivialise my sexuality. They think I am pretending to be attracted to women so as to "turn them on". I have so often been asked whether I would allow another woman to be a part of our sexual relationship just because I am bisexual. Does anyone else have this issue? Just because I am bisexual it doesn't mean I don't want a monogamous relationship.
According to my male friends, the moment a girl says she's bi, she instantly becomes way more attractive because they seem to think that she therefore means she is willing to let them watch her with another girl, or have a threesome. It kinda sucks, and is the reason I haven't come out to those particular friends yet
This happens to all women who are attracted to women; men think girl-on-girl is hot and unserious and will trivialize it. This sucks for both sides because many bi women are coerced into having threesomes with their boyfriend to 'please' him, while many lesbians are erased and harassed by voyeuristic men. This is a huge reason why neither want to come out to men.
Is it better to hide your sexuality if you happen to be dating a man then? It's so much easier when I'm dating a girl, they never want to question my bisexuality.
That sucks This never bothers me as I am polyamorous but I do understand you for wanting a momogamous relationship.
I think because I have low self esteem with regards to my appearance I wouldn't be able to handle another person in my relationship because I would worry about how I compare and whether my partner is more attracted to the other person.
