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Can you be demisexual to only one gender?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Paulipocket10, Mar 15, 2015.

  1. Paulipocket10

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    So I realize this may be kinda a weird question, but here's the thing.. I have just recently discovered that I am bisexual. Growing up I had crushes on guys, though I never got into any relationships, I had a few dates and some I fell pretty hard for. However, I never got to the point where I got to know them very well or ever had a strong desire to have sex with them. Though I questioned my sexuality a few times growing up and would always be curious what it would be like kissing a girl, I pushed it away. About a year ago, I eventually realized that I was attracted to girls when I fell in love with a friend and ever since I have had a great desire to get sexually intimate with a girl. Not that I would want to do this, but I feel that I could possibly have a one night stand with a girl and really enjoy it, which for men I know I would not find satisfying. Now whenever I see attractive girls I imagine what it would be like to kiss them, whereas with guys I still notice and am attracted to them, but that desire isn't as strong.

    So I guess I'm wondering is it possible as a bisexual to be demisexual to just one gender. Or am I probably not demisexual and just have a preference for women and only romantically (and not sexually) attracted to men?
     
  2. Jax12

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    Can't really answer your question, but I was thinking the same for myself as well. I guess when it comes to bisexual, it doesn't have to be 50/50 (which you may have heard before).

    I believe I also had crushes on girls when I was young, even now, though I'm beginning to question if they're even crushes at all. Never had crushes on guys (maybe one, but not sure if that was even a crush...), but like you said the desire for the same gender is stronger than the desire for the opposite gender.