We're all aware at this point that porn is a poor indicator for sexuality, but I think could tell us things that we find interesting or alluring, whether it's the fantasy itself or if we truly find it arousing in real life. Spoiler When I watch gay porn, it always involves some sort of a power dynamic, which involved either scenarios: - A much older man (dad type guy) having sex with a young man - A muscular, beefy older man having sex with another muscular, beefy older man. In this case, one looks more dominant than the other based purely on appearance (looking better = more power). When I watch straight porn, it again involves a power dynamic, which involved either scenarios: - A much older man (dad type guy) having sex with another woman - A bigger, buffer older male having sex with another woman. Lesbian porn doesn't really do anything for me. Not sure why, but the fantasy itself is not very exciting. Seems very fake. I do enjoy watching 2 women kiss, touch each other, etc but when it comes to porn it's not something I can orgasm as easy as straight/gay. I think it's also important to note that in straight porn I always imagine myself as the guy. So as you can see, my fantasies involve a very imbalanced relationship. So what's your fantasies?
I dont know but I just did some testing even thought i shouldnt be. I relapsed again and did compulsive testing. I didnt enjoy watching either. I watched a straight porn video No reaction, flaccid Watched a gay sex video Slightly firmer, still flaccid Other body feelings i felt more relaxed watching the straight video It was uncomfortable to watch the gay video,i felt some anxiety in my stomach so i had to breathe to get through it. Honestly i dont really like watching either. From an objective standpoint the gay video felt more raw, as in it looked like the actors were actually enjoying themselves. With the straight video she was acting so fake and the guy looked bored. Now my obsessive thoughts are going to take the fact that it felt more firm to be a direct sign that im gay. Its hard to battle that in my head considering i dont want to engage in that act. All i know is that it didnt feel good when i was watching it, i felt on edge. When im completley relaxed i dont get an erection from like 85% of gay material. Its only when im kind of panicky that i get aroused quicker. I really think i screwed up my arousal system, the combo of fear+ anxiety and nudity would get me aroused quicker. And it has carried over into real life. Because during class one day a guy (who is not attractive looking) took off his sweatshirt and i saw it happen. I got scared, then a quick semi erection for a few seconds, then it went away when i calmed down. The next time i saw the guy i had no reaction at all. So i really dont know where i stand. I dont even know if i know what sexual attraction is, or what true arousal is. Except recently i watched and read something with a women in it, and for the first time i got aroused quickly and intensly, which shocked me because it actually felt good, and there wasnt a panic/ pit in my stomach feeling tagging along with it. But in the end , frankly i never really enjoyed watching porn.
That's interesting... I realize that my sexual urges with guys get intense as I get more panicked about it. Doesn't feel comfortable in general, but hey masturbating about it does the trick and I don't feel stressed out after that. I think lots of porn screwed me up. Dunno.
My porn fantasies change so often there's no point mentioning them. I do like unbalanced gay relationships like Jax does. The genders in the gay relationship don't really matter. I just don't think most straight porn is that exciting. I get a lot of groinal responses when I see topless or muscular men, but when I try to fantasize about having sex with them I can never climax. Even if I get a very strong groinal response. When I think of sex with women I usually do climax, even if the fantasy wasn't that great. I still convince myself once in a while that I'm secretly straight or bi and just have a bunch daddy issues preventing me from wanting to be with guys.
In regards to straight stuff, I pretty much only like femdom, female sadism/male masochism and non-heteronormative things. I think it has something to do with the psychology of me dislike hetero stuff in the first place. I don't like lesbian porn despite the fact it matches my sexuality.
Pornography really isn't my cup of tea. If I do watch it, it's usually as sort of a spectator, out of curiosity. Sometimes, I find more enjoyment from the terrible dialogue and sounds, than the actual acts themselves. With male-on-male, I'm not too picky. But the moment they start with all those grizzly-voiced "GRAWR!"s and "YEEEEEAH!"s, it kills the mood for me. I can understand, you know, making some sounds during sexual acts, but come on man, don't sound like you're constipated or a really bad villain. With female-on-female, I tend to not like the "male-produced" stuff. You know, awkward positions, hideous dialogue, and the screaming. Oh. My. God. That screaming kills the mood, what little I was having. I prefer more sensual stuff, like lots of close body contact, roaming hands, and gentle kisses. Bonus points if there is neck-kissing and little squeals of pleasure-produced happiness, because of it. With male-on-female, I tend to be the pickiest. Yes, a lot of it is terrible, and it is the biggest offender of the shrieking screams, that I detest. But you can find some decent stuff. I tend to like the quieter stuff, where an occasional "Mm..." or "Oooh!" is heard, and both parties are being tended to and taken care of. Bonus points if there is soft laughter, like the pleasurably surprised stuff, where something wasn't intended to feel good but winds up feeling as such, anyway. Male-on-female porn tends to get a bad rap, which is understandable, but in a way, that's what makes finding those rare gems all the better. End of the day, if all parties are enjoying themselves, and showing displays of affection, I'm down. This is probably why I tend to only watch the beginning, where there is kissing and rubbing, as well as the end for any post-sex cuddling and kissing, those few times I do view pornography. This is probably my "porn fantasy"; more foreplay and post-play, and not so much the sex. But I'm weird like that.
With Straight porn (i prefer female friendly porn) i always picture myself as the guy (sometimes wish i had a penis for a day- hope that's not explicit) but yeah, the whole time i will be looking at the girls body language and her face . i am however really turned of when the female goes down on the man so i skip it. with lesbian porn, it takes more. i just feel as though there is no emotional connection between the women. but i definitely am turned on when they go down on each other. i prefer reading erotic stories when it comes to lesbian sex or watch movies like 'blue is the warmest colour' 'cause the emotional connection is stronger gay porn (male to male) i hv never watched.. i doubt it would cut it for me
I find myself agreeing a lot with what Justine had to say. Porn definitely isn't great, but there are better and worse things out there. Rather than say all the things I hate (over the top screaming, grunting, violence-emulating aggression in penetrative intercourse), I'll just point out what I really like to see in erotic videos. For all genders, I like to see really queer, loving scenes where the partners are being kind to each other. So give us more gay tops kissing bottoms during anal! Give us men being nice to women and asking what they want. Give us more interesting consent negotiation!
I've heard that most lesbians don't like Lesbian Porn, becuase it's made for men or not realistic. ---------- Post added 16th Mar 2015 at 07:00 PM ---------- I like cubs, but mostly amateur videos. Lately I only like it when it's two people who actually loo like they love each other, rather than just screwing eachother for a paycheck. Especially the cheesy dialogue and unrealistic situations. (Come on, how many people randomly start kissing, screwing eachother just after they met?)
I dislike porn videos because they tend to be loud and sweaty endeavors. I get enough loud and sweaty people in my day to day interactions; if they're not going to be fucking me directly why should I tolerate it any longer than I have to normally? For quality masturbation, a silent, pristine gallery of hentai is obviously the better choice.
Hell man, I'm a lesbian and lesbian porn doesn't do it for me. XD However, I like extremely sensual scenes with a ton of forplay. I also like light BDSM, because of the power play.
hmmm, porn fantasy, well, I wouldn't mind having ____ and ___ and doing ____ and ____ and ____... Sounds like a game of Cards Against Humanity in the making. The only fantasy porn I have is in my head, and I'm kinda central to it (since I'm often in the middle of things )
It's quite rare for me to find gay porn attractive... It lacks that "sensuality" thing that makes it work. Yeah... I'm of the romantic type and to have sex just to put your dick somewhere is often a turn off, it often feels like none of them is enjoying it. I tend to watch (or read, for the hentais) more straight porn and to merely imagine that I'm the girl. Even though it obviously is way less exciting than a good gay porn. I usually works better to just let your imagination go wild.
