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Lost my virginity to a girl..but I'm gay

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Connor86, Mar 21, 2015.

  1. Connor86

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    Alright so I've been attracted to both girls and guys since 8th grade. I've had plenty of relationships with girls as we'll. I felt quite comfortable as a bisexual and that's what I saw myself as internally. However all that changed. I had sex for the first time with a girl when I was 15 and it just didn't feel "right" for some reason. I still regret it to this day. And now it seems like I have lost all attraction for girls in general. I feel like a exclusively gay guy now. Which brings me to the question of am I gay? Is sexuality something that can seem to change like this? And if I am gay am I a odd one out because I lost my V card to a girl? Looking back I wish it had never happened.

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  2. Foz

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    You're in the same boat as me I lost my V plates when I was 18 and it was with a girl (I'm not quite sure how it happened, I got outrageously drunk and I think I was buying load of people drinks as I spend £400!!), we went back to a hotel and had sex, I don't know how I managed to get an erection as I was that drunk! 11 months later I was in a relationship with a girl that lasted nearly a year, I did love here but I just didn't feel right.

    Even when I started watching 'normal' porn at 12 I was always more interested in the guy, I started watching gay porn at 14 and by 18 watched only gay porn. You'll find there's quite a few people here who've had sex with girls and long term relationships with them, which surprised me the most when I joined, so you are definitely alone. Not everyone knows they're gay by 13, many experiment to see what works, try to suppress their feelings or like me weren't sure if they were gay or straight so go along with what is 'normal' and have sex with girls.
     
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    Thanks for the reply. Makes me feel better. You hear all this talk about "gold star gays" and they all say I'm bi -_-. I just don't feel the physical nor emotional attraction to girls anymore. And yeah same I've been watching straight and gay porn since like 13 but gravitated nor towards gay and now watch it exclusively pretty much.
     
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    No having sex with the opposite sex doesn't make you any less gay.

    You can have sex with anyone, even people you aren't attracted to. You're orientation is about who you're sexually attracted to, not who you have sex with.
     
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    Agreed. It definitely sounds like you're gay too me, and if you want to identify as that, go ahead and don't think about what the "gold stars" says. And yes, sexuality is fluid so it's very possible that your orientation changes overtime :slight_smile: