I have had quite a roller coaster ride with my orientation. I have always been strongly attracted to women, but I have had many gay fantasies which led to 2 gay experiences. I enjoy gay porn from time to time...sometimes I like it, sometimes I dont. It depends on if Im going through that phase at the time or not. I have been with a a guy twice. The first time we did 69 and I was too nervous to know if I liked it. The second guy I was with, I drank too much to really remember if I liked it also. The 2nd time was actual sex. I know its typical to say I like women 100 x's over guys, but I get random urges. Other times I see myself as completely straight. These experiences happened in my early 20's so it has been a while since Ive been with a guy. These urges have persisted for over a decade so I assume Im at the very least, bi?? Thanks for any input.
Have you ever heard about the Kinsey scale? You should check it out. I'm bisexual and it helped me a lot when I was not sure about my sexual orientation. If you're still not sure after that, you should just take your time and think about this all. The answer will come, when you give time to it. Good luck!
I felt similar to you when I was first discovering my sexuality. I found just experimenting with men made me feel much more sure of what I like and didn't like, and that I most definitely was bisexual. Not everyone is a full blown 50/50 though, and the Kinsey scale as big said is a great way to see where you fall on the sexual spectrum. If you have any questions regarding bisexuality down the road, my wall is always open!
I had sex with a guy in his 50s and I thought it was okay. For the most part I had to force myself to meet up with him, but I enjoyed it at the very least. It didn't really answer my question about what label I was, but I do like him because he's very nurturing and caring, and wants to listen to me. But then when I think a girl is cute and I begin talking to her, my tone changes immediately, and I'm aware of it, and of course its unintentional. She's got a slim body too which is a definite +. I would say I'm sexually attracted to her, at least to some extent, but it's not enough for me to orgasm, or masturbate to for that matter. I could get hard from girls before, but now it's a lot more difficult. Another thread was taking about heteroflexible, and that sounds like a label I would look into more.
Thanks for the feedback. Everyone seems so nice on this forum I have heard of the Kinsey scale and I have a difficult time finding where I fall on it. The reason being is that sometimes I am 100% and I think "oh, those gay experiences or previous thoughts were just a phase" or something along those lines. Denial? Perhaps the term "heterflexible" best suits me right now, but it is still confusing. I want to eventually get married and have kids but that isnt on my agenda as of now. It has only been a few times where I saw a guy and thought I wouldnt mind hooking up. I mostly fantasize about the penis (if you will) and being able to play with it. Maybe I am bisexual and just need to come to terms with it. Perhaps experiment a bit more?
You're probably about a 1.5 on the Kinsey Scale. 0 is straight, 6 is gay, 3 is "perfectly" bisexual. There's nothing wrong with liking both sexes and having a preference. More experience could help you with discovering what you really are. I don't know... I can't really recommend a course of action, but I would keep track of your thoughts and what seems to turn you on and what doesn't. You might just have a very specific "type" of guy you're attracted to. A lot of people will say "I'm not really attracted to guys, but the right guy I would try something with."
