Gay men - any kind of sexual attraction to women/what attraction?

Well what you're doing with girls on the street is something I do as well, and something I've been considering in terms of "what would a gay guy think of this". Quite frankly, when I'm with my buddies we'll talk about a girl that we pass by and I'll give him a smile and he'll do the same LOL (if you know what I mean). Feels natural if you ask me.

I'm probably bisexual since I have an attraction to older men. I'm certain it's not a stage, since I've had it since I was around 13. Not really attracted to guys my age though, never was. It's their body, however, that appeals to me the most.

 

Since you mentioned the physical/body thing, my attraction to older men isn't just men over 40 in general. If they don't have the body type then it's a no for me. My criteria is very specific. It's gotta be a big guy (buff or not). That's my "physical/body" attraction.

What about yours?

 

I find women to be very sexy, and I do tend to "pick out" attractive women easier be that because I just don't see very many good-looking men or that women are just more visually appealing to me. I have been aroused by women before, (not in real life, only porn) and I have had crushes on girls before. I understand where you're coming from there.

That being said, I don't really think I want to have sex with a girl when I see one I think is attractive. I simply find women more aesthetically pleasing. I don't think vaginas and boobs are something I would ever want anything to do with. I have had relationships with girls before and it just felt a little off to me. When I think about it, being with a man both sexually and romantically feels right. Straight men can appreciate it when other men are nice looking, but there's not necessarily any sexual desire. I'm probably more like bisexual homoromantic than gay, but I choose gay as my label because It feels right to me.

That's just me, and I hope this helps you in some way.

 

In my experience what you describe is not that unusual--you could be bi, you could be gay. You don't really say much about attraction to men so I suppose you could be straight. Only time will really tell. I'm gay. I've been out for I guess about twenty-two years now--came out shortly after college, been with my partner for eighteen years.

When I was younger I thought I was bi. I had these fantasies about men but I liked women too. It was a different time and place and I just decided that given that I was attracted to both I would just act on the attraction to women. After all everyone has fantasies and no one acts on even close to all their attraction. So I dated women, pretty actively. I had girlfriends. I was sexually active--I've actually been with more women than many of my straight male friends. I wasn't just doing it to pass. I like women. I enjoyed being in relationships with them. The sex was fun and felt good. It was... nice. And in retrospect I mean to damn it with faint praise, but at the time it really did seem... nice. I wasn't quite sure what everyone was singing about and it wasn't quite like it was in the movies but, hey, what is right?

And then a guy kissed me. He was a friend of my roommate who would visit from Princeton. And it was like he was me, but at Princeton. We were both comparative religious studies majors, we both did parliamentary debate. As it happens we were both gay. He was out and I could tell that he could tell with me but he knew I wasn't out and was respectful and all that. Oh, and he was gorgeous. Anyway, we went to a party and he had a bit more to drink than he should have and since I didn't drink it was my job to make sure he got home safe. We made it back to the dorm, me half holding him up and then there in the lobby of my dorm he kissed me.

And it was like lightning through my soul. My legs literally gave out and we fell to the ground our limbs all tangled up, and by the time I managed to get back up I knew I was gay. This was what everyone was singing about and this was like it was in the movies--all fireworks and butterflies. I had thought that all that was just sort of overrated and in that moment I found that it wasn't--I'd just been doing it wrong. And once I accepted that my attraction for women almost immediately faded. I haven't looked at a woman in a sexual manner in well over twenty years. The mind's a funny thing...