I came out several years ago as bisexual (i'm almost 17) but recently I realized that I'm a lesbian. I'm pretty sure or this, and I started coming out again to a few of my friends, but I wanted to put my reasoning out there to see if it makes sense with you all. I'm just pretty confused right now because I thought that I was bisexual for years. For starters, I've always been way turned on my girls but with guys, although I can definitely tell when a guy is hot, I was never sexually attracted to them. I had several guy crushes in middle school and early high school, but I rarely found them attractive. they were mostly my guy friends who I trusted and wouldn't mind going out with, and it ended up turning into a weird, awkward "crush" The reason I wanted a boyfriend so badly in middle school, I realized, was not that I actually liked boys, but that having a boyfriend was cool and I wanted someone to care for me because I was lonely. On the flip side: although I used to hardcore repress my feelings for girls (I never let myself have crushes on them in middle school), I always was really drawn to them both physically and emotionally. When I find 5% of guys reasonably attractive, I find at least 80% of girls that attractive or more. There is still a stray guy that I am super attracted to (cough cough Brendon Urie) but I think it's pretty rare and because I like girls so much as a whole I really don't think that one or two attractive guys should be enough to call myself bisexual. What do you guys think? I hope this made sense.
Well... I kinda had the same thing...I had few crushes, but when I tought a girl in that way I just ignored it... And well, I find myself as a bisexual.. but now I'm not sure... If you just don't find yourself with a boy, I think you are a lesbian. If it feels strange a anything like that, I think you are a lesbian. And because of that what you told, I think you are a lesbian. There's few reasons you might be a lesbian. So good luck! Hopely this helped you in some way
I would say that you are a lesbian, not because you find 80% of women attractive as opposed to only 5% of men, but because that's the label that you seem most comfortable with. I too, identify as lesbian but find myself attracted to a boy once in a blue moon. I personally feel that my attraction to boys is incomparable to my attraction to girls and that's why I feel comfortable identifying as gay. When I think about it, I only want to date women and they turn me on so much more than men. Hopefully you can relate and good luck!
