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What Age Did You Come Out

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Foz, Apr 7, 2015.

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What Age Did You First Come Out

  1. 12 or Under

    4 vote(s)
    4.2%
  2. 13

    9 vote(s)
    9.5%
  3. 14

    14 vote(s)
    14.7%
  4. 15

    6 vote(s)
    6.3%
  5. 16

    10 vote(s)
    10.5%
  6. 17

    5 vote(s)
    5.3%
  7. 18

    7 vote(s)
    7.4%
  8. 19

    5 vote(s)
    5.3%
  9. 20

    6 vote(s)
    6.3%
  10. 21

    4 vote(s)
    4.2%
  11. 22

    4 vote(s)
    4.2%
  12. 23

    2 vote(s)
    2.1%
  13. 24

    6 vote(s)
    6.3%
  14. 25 or Over

    13 vote(s)
    13.7%
  1. Foz

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    OK, so I've seen a few posts by people my age only just coming out now and that took me back a bit realising how long some of us old people put it off for or it took to realise. So I just want it consolidated in one place with a poll for all to see. I always used to think that people knew since they were kids and came out in their early teens, but it certainly no longer seems that way.
     
  2. Kenaria

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    Age 13 is when i officially came out to everyone... scary times, but they've passed
     
  3. AKTodd

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    First experience with a guy at 19, came out at 21.

    Before that I had no idea I was gay, and barely knew that gay existed (wasn't raised that it was bad or anything - the subject just never came up). I had absolutely zero interest in girls, but generally saw that as just being above it all (silly little people with their silly little urges and feelings - acting as though such things matter).

    Once I figured out I was gay (there was no soul searching or emotional upset - I just concluded what I was and moved on), I started coming out within a couple weeks and was out to pretty much everyone within a year.

    Todd
     
  4. Im Hazel

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    Mfw I click the wrong age. I have come out this year - I am 15. Not 14. Yeah.
     
  5. phoenix89

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    Sexual Orientation:
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    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I came out as bi at 24, but now I am gay and 25 and I am yet to tell but a handful of people.
     
  6. Jguy365

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    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I was 18 when I began the coming out process. Now,at 19, I am still working on it. Hopefully, I will be fully out before I turn 20 this year.
     
  7. Jax12

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    Out to everyone
    Came out to parents last year, slowly coming out to other people as bi/gay.
     
  8. MrSkittles

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    Came out to everyone at age 14. Great reactions from everyone(mostly).
     
  9. hephzibah

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    I was 20.
     
  10. mindthegap

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    I came out to my cousin and two close friends at 24. It would be sooner, first time I was questioning myself was at 19, but then there was my mum having cancer,she died and it left me so sad and depressed I just burried it somewhere deep inside of me. Five years later it came back so I guess now is my time to deal with it.
     
  11. DarrenB

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    Without a shadow of a doubt, I had always assumed I was completely straight my entire life, up until February 2014 (I was 21 and a half). Then one day I met the first guy I fell in love with, and it started me on my journey to question everything. I only accepted the fact that I was attracted to men in December 2014, but I still didn't know what that meant. Was I gay? Bi? Was I a transwoman? Was I a transwoman who's bisexual? (I'm sorry if I wrote transwoman incorrectly, I don't know what the proper way to write it is). I spent January-February of this year trying to understand what my attraction to men meant. It's only this March that finally accepted the fact that I'm gay. I came out to both my siblings and my mother last month. Still haven't told my dad yet (he's scary, lol). I'm 22.
     
  12. wolf of fire

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    First person: 15
    Joined EC: 15
    Told various friends and college: 16
    Will tell family: your guess is as good as mine.
     
  13. Fallingdown7

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    14 as bisexual, 19 as gay.

    I was never really legit bi though, just thought I was at the time
     
  14. confuzzled82

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    Sexual Orientation:
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    Out to everyone
    I didn't even start accepting I was bi until I was about 27, or fully accept I was trans until last year. I'm still working on coming out....
     
  15. Emily1

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    Out as bisexual at 18 and out as a lesbian at 19

    I'm really glad you made this poll, the results are much more varied than I thought they would be.
     
  16. Daffyd

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    My case is a bit weird. Technically, I came out to my parents as gay at 13, but they told me it was a phase and I believed them. So my official coming out age is 18. And I'm glad I did so too. :slight_smile:
     
  17. Foz

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    Sorry, but I can only think of this when I see your name :roflmao:

    Daffyd was a character on Little Britain and it was just beyond hilarious!

    [​IMG]
     
  18. fruitbats

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    13! Surprisingly good responses. Some slurs occasionally, but overall very positive! Glad I came out :slight_smile:
     
  19. Hyliana

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    I came out to my parents and best friend at 19, though i'm still slowly coming out to everyone else.
     
  20. Jellal

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    21. An alright time for me all things considered, because my parents were able to take me at least a little more seriously thanks to my age and the assumption that I'm more mature (which I'm definitely not.) But I do wish I could've come out a long time ago, so that I could have a smooth and early transition and block a lot of this man-shit caused by hormones and whatevs. But I am where I am now, so I'll have to make do. Like my sister said, "it's really not too late."