OKay so when i was younger I was afraid I might be gay. Im 18 now and for most of my teenage years i liked this girl and was afraid to tell her. I masterbated to women. But sometimes i watch porn and i put myself in the position of the women and i get aroused, (submissive position). Could i be gay or bi? how would i know? Im really confused and tired of all this....
Well you're using porn, which in itself is not a good indicator for one's orientation. You aren't gay for watching gay porn, you're gay because in real life you want relationships with men (which of course may include sex). You still masturbaye to women so that in itself would seem to indicate that you probably aren't gay. So with that said, how does that feel to you? Could you be a guy with varied interests when it comes to sex? Any attractions to guys in real life?
You could be bi. Wanting to be in a submissive position doesn't necessarily mean anything about your sexuality though.If you like thinking about being in submissive position with a guy, then that might mean something.
Hey! You could be bi but I think you need to go out into the world and try your attraction to men. Porn is generally not a good indicator of who we're attracted to irl. While your submissiveness could indicate you want to have sex with men, being submissive as women are could just be something you get off to during sex. That aspect of being with men could be the only part you like... hope that's helpful!!
I would like to point out that while that is as a general rule true, I did masturbate to women for a number of years and I'm still gay.
This could go either way. Keep in mind though that straight men can enjoy being in submissive positions, and gay men can also enjoy masturbating to women in porn. Porn is porn and doesn't indicate real world attractions all the time. However, if you imagine yourself in that position because you are imagining doing those things with men, that is a bigger indicator.
