Sorry if this gets a little confusing. First of all I think I'm bisexual, im pretty sure. I am also a female and I have no sexual experience (if that makes a difference idk). So when I have 'sexual fantasies' or whatever it's always from the point of view of a male. I have a penis and a man's body and it's always heterosexual sex (as in I'm a guy having sex with a female). The male's point of view is nearly always a celebrity or something. I don't feel like a male though and that's what is confusing me. Why, if I am a female, do I have these fantasies from the male POV?
Well it doesn't need to mean anything specific. I do have those kinds of fantasies- for me it is because it is easier to imagine the perspective & because I naturally tend to be more a top/active- I like to imagine my sexual energy pressing outwards, and imagining this kind of scenario just makes the logistics easier. But there are straight people who do exactly the same (switching roles) - I have a straight male friend who likes to imagine being in the position of the woman- for him it is still about straight sex though and he is still straight/not attracted to men. I think for him the idea of letting go is attractive. Fantasies can take you in all sorts of mental spaces.
I can say that my preferred role is, and has always been female role. I almost can't get there without being in femme role. I'm MTF, and closeted to about everyone. I can't say whether I prefer guys or girls, but I know that I prefer not be be in male role in life, nor in the bed. but without experience it's hard to tell. You may get with a guy, or girl and find out the fantasy and reality are nothing alike.
If you don't feel male, then you probably just have a fetish. This is something that turns a lot of people on, even cishetero people. I have personally known a straight couple- the guy liked to 'pretend he was a girl' and vice versa, but they never had any trans issues. It is similar to sexual masochism, where some people are really turned on by the thought of someone hurting them or drawing blood. But take them out of a bedroom situation and they still would never want to be legit abused.
Fantasies don't necessarily have anything to do with how you identify. You could have fantasies about being a woman, man, or whatever but still identify as something else in real life. If you truly are a woman and you feel that way then you are. If you are questioning being a man then is the time to think about it. It seems it's just a fantasy/fetish that's perfectly okay. Don't worry everyone has fantasies.:eusa_danc
Tbh I like "watching" rather than participating, especially in my fantasies. I rarely out myself in a position of a girl. If anything I put myself in the position in the guy and imagine myself havin sex with the girl. If they're both attractive that's always a bonus (talking about porn here).
