In the past I have always just assumed I had feelings for women, I mean a girl kissed me once about 3 or 4 years ago, and to be honest I liked it. but I'm 17 now so my brain is just reaching the end of maturing, I'm wondering if perhaps part of maturing for me was realising my true sexuality. I've never been "that" interested in girls before, not really fancying many girls in my past and not having sexual thoughts about them very often. In the past I did do some experimenting (I went to a high functioning autistic school) it was mainly just mmasturbating in the same room together, although i had mutually masturbated several times with one of my closer friends around the same time (3 or so years ago). At the time I rarely watched gay porn, recently for the first time I had a proper look at gay porn and I'm being honest, it Really got me off. I'm fact I'm not sure but signs seem to indicating I've been repressing my homosexuality, as recently I have had some sexual thoughts about men and they have aroused me. Also I drempt about men sexually about 5 times the past month or so, which is unusual as I never used to have sexual dreams (only 1 and it was straight sex I was dreaming about). I could probably give more info, but thats what i think is important. Thanks to anyone who replies
Sorry, I know its a little confusing/hard to tell what sexuality I am. I'm rather confused myself (otherwise I wouldn't have posted it in the first place) If anyone wants more info just go ahead and ask! Again my personal thanks to anyone who replies ---------- Post added 11th Apr 2015 at 09:48 AM ---------- Oh and another thing, recently as I come out to myself, admitting I am probably gay, I haven't had any sort of attraction to women, like when I'm watching TV and there is a romance scene, I don't even find the girls arousing or attractive, but I find the men attractive. I'm pretty sure I'm not completely straight, but this could still be a phase, although over the past few years I haven't found any women attractive, Although until very recently (past few months) I only found men attractive. I guess it looks like I'm Gay/Bisexual/homoflexible? but I can't be sure until I see what happens in the future, and again the point that I started having fairly strong feelings for men coming out of practically nowhere as well as other reasons are what make me believe I was repressing my feelings for men. And whatever the case, I'm happy whatever sexuality I am (hence my signature) ---------- Post added 11th Apr 2015 at 09:49 AM ---------- If anyone has any opinion on what they think, it would be greatly appreciated!
Hey there! Unfortunately, it's very difficult for us to tell you for sure what your sexuality might be. As you probably know, sexuality is a broad spectrum and you could fall anywhere on that spectrum! Do you find men romantically and/or sexually attractive? How about women, are you attracted to the romantically and/or sexually? It sounds to me like the answer to the first question is probably a 'yes' for you, but you're not quite sure how you feel about women. You say you've enjoyed kissing a girl when you were younger, how do you feel about it now? Do you find females attractive? If you do find that you have some attraction towards men and women, remember that identifying as "bisexual" doesn't mean that you have to feel an equal level of attraction toward men and women. Sometimes you can experience a different level of attraction, or a 'preference' for a specific gender- that's okay too. At the same time, if you can imagine yourself with a man but not a woman, and don't see that changing any time soon, you might find that the "gay" label suits you better. I understand why you might be keen to put a label on your sexuality, but don't put too much pressure on yourself to figure it all out now. Ultimately, I'm a firm believer that you should follow your heart towards whatever and whoever makes you happy.
I identify as homoflexible for now because there are times when I have urges to be with girls, and sometimes I dont. It's not enough for me to identity as bisexual, and even if I was bisexual I would be leaning towards guys a lot.
Thanks for the message! I've never actually been in a relationahip really, so its hard to tell my feelings for men/woman that way. And although it could be that my gay feelings have only just come, right now I have no interest in woman whatsoever, where as I can think about men sexually and get quite aroused. However I think it could change at some point, in the end I can't really be sure at the moment, If I have to label myself (if someone asks) I would say I'm not sure but for now I consider myself homosexual. In terms of relationships I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens, a friend I knew from my primary school, who has been openly gay for a while started taking interest in me though, online though as we haven't seen much of each other for several years, I'm planning to meet up with him soon, Im not 100% but i think its a date (my first). When we meet I'm just going to relax and see what happens, and even if it isn't a serious relationship I guess some "fun" or "messing around" might still bring me some answers.
I took this flexuality test: https://flexuality.wordpress.com/take-the-test/ the results I got were: Your answers on the Flexuality Test suggest you may be Gay Ambisexual: 1 Flaxamorous: 1 Gay: 6 Supersexual: 1 Transitioning: 6 Not surprised about the transitioning, I answered all the questions on how I feel right now. and as I guessed, it thinks I'm gay.
Update: I think I have feelings for both men and woman, the other day I noticed a girls butt and liked it for example. I got aroused reading this thread: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anonymous-physical-sexual-health/175962-masterbation-help.html In the end I'm just going to wait and see, but I think I'm bi not gay, either way I'm happy
