Hi there. Just looking to chat really to anyone who's been through similar things. I'm 20 y/o guy, inexperienced sexually. I've always had a sort of tendency to look at guys, but considered myself straight. I've recently, in the past year or so, started to realise I don't have any real sexual desire towards women. I tend to masturbate about guys that I know and only really have sexual feelings towards them. But when I thin of myself in a relationship it's still with a woman. That may be just because it's such an ingrained image in society though and not because it's my preference. Very confused. I've had two girlfriends, never had penetrative sex with either but done various sexual things - I never felt truly comfortable in those relationships though, like I was forcing myself to keep them going. And I made out with a guy recently for the first time and enjoyed it. And I know there can be a difference between the sexual attraction and the romantic attraction, but I don't fully understand how that works. So starting to accept the fact I might be bi with a preference for guys, I don't know what to do next. Being as inexperienced as I am as late in life as I am, I've no idea how to start. I'm not the clubbing type, but even when I go I don't know what to do, how I would get with a guy to even know if I liked it etc. Sorry this has been such a long post. I'm sure it's quite a common story. Many thanks all.
I'm not quite compatible with your experiences, but I can try to offer advice, if you'd like. Anyway, feel free to send me a message if you need to talk about anything If you're in college/uni, you could try finding out about LGBT+ support groups going on within your school
I don't think it's ever too late if you're breathing fine. But like what ForNarnia has said, maybe it is a good idea to find out about LGBT+ support groups in your uni. Or if you're past that, maybe you can Google a place nearby where LGBT people meet.
Thanks guys. Yeah, I know there is an LGBT group, I might try and find people there to talk to and socialise, that sounds like a great place to start. Do you find that there are people who are gay/bisexual who you meet who are coming to the scene later on as it were?
