Hey guys! I was wondering, how to know for sure if you're a bi? I felt like something was wrong for some time now, but it's been just a couple of days, that I'm letting in the idea that I might be bi. Just to say, I have nothing againts different orientation and never had. I just want to be sure about myself. How you were sure? I never had sex. Should i explore this or just let it be? Any advice are very appreciated!
Well, I identified as being into girls only not at all long ago. But then I was like, "Hmm... I have slept with men... several times... and I do find boys attractive, though I'm a bit picky, and I have been in love with at least one guy... OKAY, OKAY, BRAIN, I'M BI, I GET IT!" Hope this doesn't make you shy, honey, but you could try masturbating while fantasizing about the sex you're not sure about (don't know if you've previously identified as lesbian or straight?). See if that, you know, does rock your boat or if it doesn't. You could also search your memory. Have you ever been in love with both males and females? Have you ever had the butterflies from fantasizing about both males and females? Hope that helps, feel free to wall me! <33
Thank you so much for your reply! It means a lot to me. But did this understanding changed your life? I thought I was straight. I had crushes on both males and females. It's hard to explain, but for example, when watching a sex scene in a movie (female + female, and male+female) it gives me this feeling and I cought myself being so into it... It's just such a pleasure. And I tried to masturbate while watching porno( again both female+female and male+female) , as I wanted to check myself. Does this mean I'm really a bi? I just want to make sure, before making decisions. Is this why I can't fall in love? Like I've dated guys, but after a while I lose interest in them. And I'm really picky too, though still I find them sexy and all. I'm sorry if it's not appropriate to talk this much about masturbating and stuff, but I believe,that being honest is the only way for understanding. Maybe I should just have sex to make sure? Thank You again, and I hope I don't bother you, with all these questions!(*hug*)
It's no bother at all, I like helping! You ask me good questions, too! Note: I don't mean that I know anything for sure about you by anything I write, I'm just... trying to help guide you a little bit Okay, so first, did it change my life? No. Not in the least bit. Only... it did feel kind of... liberating to admit it to myself. I mean, suddenly there's twice as many candidates to be with, right? That doesn't mean it might not change yours, it might, I cannot say. But it didn't for me much. Okay, to me it definitely seems like you're not 100% straight or 100% gay, if you've been in love with both males and females and sexually attracted to both. If you're interested in both, then you are bisexual... in some way or other. I think maybe another question would be, "In which way are you bisexual?" It could be (I'm not suggesting it is), for example, when it comes to sex you're 60% attracted to females, 40% males, and when it comes to romance youre 50/50, or something like that. Me for example, both when it comes to romance and sex I'm slightly more attracted to girls than boys. It could be that your uninterest in your relationship with guys indicate at least one of two possibilities: 1) You're not comfortable in your sexuality, since you have not accepted it. Thus, you can't be comfortable in romantic situations because of internal conflict. 2) You might, romantically, be more into girls. And about having sex, it's really hyped and all you know Don't rush it, do it when it feels right!
Thanks! It's like, I'm kind of scared right now, because of this situation. Scared, because I don't really know what to do with myself. It isn't like I am in panic or anything like that, it's just really strange. I don't feel really shocked somehow. Maybe because I had this idea before. And I feel excited too. Part of me wants to smile, like saying "finally girl". . Maybe my 18 birthday present to myself will be acceptance of myself and the end of conflicts . The more I think and analyze the more it seems to be true that I'm bisexual. In which ways I don't know for sure, as I didn't have sex, but I think for sex it might be girls a little more, as for relationship boys. But I will find the answer. . Maybe there is something else I need to know? Oh, you don't even know how much you helped me! It's more clear now, what answers I need to find out, and about this in general. You're so lovely to help me!
Gawd you're sweet, your gratitude is 10 times reward for the effort! Don't be scared! Talk to us people here, instead, and others IRL you trust! (&&&) That sounds like an awesome birthday gift! And well, you might want to know, well, people are strange sometimes, sometimes in a cute way and sometimes in an unpleasant way ^^ Not everyone's accepting, so, you know, don't walk around tense, just try to, well... not let it get you down if people are not open about it. Remember that it's not really you or them that's the problem, it's just we have a stupid, stupid social system which feeds many of us with such bigotry from early on. I'm not saying this is necessarily going to be any kind of problem for you! I'm just saying it's possible, unfortunaly <: ) You probably know that already though, forgive me for my depressing rant, I'm getting old or something! xD Oh, and remember to have fun with it! : DD
I definetly will be spending time in this forum .Talking to people IRL will take a lot of time, though. In the town that I live people are really closed minded. The only person, that I would tell is my mum, 'cause other family members, well, they are not tolerant towards these things. Like at all. But for now, I'll keep it to myself. Yeah, society nowadays is just so judging... It saddens me. Not only talking about orientation, but in general. Yet, there are cool people too. And I believe that someday our society will change! Not depressing at all, as it's all true . And I will have fun, only when I leave this city. . Maybe this summer, as I'm planning to go for vacation abroad!
