SO! I came out to two friends as gay. (Yay! I might be slightly bi, but prefer to identify as gay) Lately I have been questioning my being gay. I noticed that everytime that I see a picture of Gay couples, I get nervous. I think it is because of me being worried that I will be judged when I come out, and later become part of a couple. I am just scared that I will always be like this. Please help and let me know if what I am experiencing is a legit thing
Congratulations on coming out!!! Don't worry about your confused feelings. Just take life a day at a time, enjoy yourself, don't be too hard on yourself, and be open to understanding who you are as your experiences continue to teach you.
I think it's perfectly normal, if you live in a place where homophobia is widespread. Love is love, right? And it will prevail. I'm thinking that if you found someone you love so deeply, hate is the last thing that will come to mind.
In what way are you nervous? Is it a revulsion or something else? Please explain your thought process a little.
@Jack I think I don't feel revoltion, I just feel weird, and to be honest, I think I have a small anxiety problem, and that could be it. I cant describe how I feel, it is definitely not a revulsion, I think it is fear that I am going to be judged PS Your quote is awesome!
It's the opposite for me. When I see heterosexual couples there's many times where I get a weird feeling, don't know why, it didn't feel like this before. Oh well, maybe it's because I'm not ready for embracing my gay identity at the moment so there's no reason for me to feel uncomfortable like you describe.
Is it gay relationships in general, or the thought of you being in a gay relationship. Or both? If it is the former, it could be internalized homophobia. If it is the latter, I really don't know. If it really bothers you, seeing a counsellor or therapist could be useful.
