Straight in the past, gay now?

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  1. kellynec

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    Are there gay people that were attracted to the opposite sex in the past but turned gay?
    I'm not talking about trying to persuade yourself that you are straight too whilst it's all fake. It was so damn natural to me, felt natural, I had no problems...

    I used to be straight and I liked both porn and real life girls.. (I'm a guy)

    But for the past 4 years I think it's either been that I've been attracted to guys exclusively or predominantly.

    I've also apparently been a porn addict and I'm working on losing this addiction by not watching porn and just masturbating. I think in that time span (6 years--> age 8-14) I'd seen 2,000 videos, seriously.

    When I used to be straight, I could only masturbate to female images in my head, that's the only thing I used to be turned on by

    But I've predominantly been attracted to guys for the past 4 years when it comes to masturbation.

    Also I just want to add that when I look at a, say, female model, I know when it's a fake butt (implant) or fake boobs.. etc
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    Is it I've actually changed my orientation unwillingly or just that I've seen everything when it comes to girls and I've always been bi and now I'm curious about guys???
     
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    Hmmm. Not really enough info to tell, it sounds like you have an interest in men either way.

    To be honest I'm sorta in the same situation as you, and I'm not sure either, difference is I experimented a lot in my past for example.
     
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    What info do you need bro? Good to see it's not only me who's in this... shit :/

    I haven't ever had sex or engaged in any kinds of relationships with either sex
     
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    Well have you experimented? When on the street which gender do you mainly find yourself looking at? Past relationships?
    Not sure really, I recommend you take this test, it told me I was probably gay and in transition

    https://flexuality.wordpress.com/take-the-test/

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    "I haven't ever had sex or engaged in any kinds of relationships with either sex"

    Ah, well aside from the experimenting I mentioned, I'm the same.

    "Good to see it's not only me who's in this... shit :/"

    Whatever sexuality you are, stay proud :slight_smile:, just not too proud that you act really camp and come out to everyone!
     
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    Could you be bisexual? It's quite common for attractions or preferences to change over time, since sexuality can be very fluid, particularity in bisexuals. Or maybe you are "mostly straight" and wouldn't mind having sex with a guy.
     
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    When on the street, I find myself looking at girls most of the time.

    @Jax: I wish I was sure I'm bisexual, I really, really hope so. Damn. I don't want to lose my straight side. :/

    I once asked this question on yahooanswers.com. One of the replies I got was this: If I am able to change my sexuality, which I just proved myself, then I'm bisexual. The guy who said this was a self-reported bisexual in a relationship with his wife for 10 years. He added that when he's alone and as their health has worsened over the course of time, he's found he's become more homosexual than heterosexual. This is interesting. Though he did say if he could he would do his wife everyday. lol
     
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    In my case, this. I'm bi, and guys are the 'great unknown' to me that I wish to explore. And will be doing so in the near future, it would seem. There's this guy I like, and I strongy suspect he is gay, and likes me too... :slight_smile:
     
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    Okay Damien, but how does that help me get the true answer to my question?

    404Dotexe: Here's what I got from the test:

    At the start of the test, you identified yourself as Homosexual. Your answers on the Flexuality Test suggest you may be Ambisexual. Press the 'Print Screen' key (near the F12 key) to copy this screen to your clipboard for future reference, or print using the icon above. Please scroll down for more about your profile.
     
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    Sounds like you are probably bi, but its hard to tell.

    As i said im the same situation so im with you every step of the way! :slight_smile:
     
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    Lately I've been feeling gayer, if that makes sense. Few months ago I would have said I was a kinsey 4, now 5 feels more accurate
     
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    ^ Same here. I remember a time where I was Kinsey 3, but now I'm feeling like a 5, although it fluctuates randomly throughout the day.
     
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    Same again.
    A few months ago I would have been very close to completely straight, but over the past few months I have ONLY had an interest in men, and I do feel a bit gay-er acting, although I could still probably pass for straight.

    So that's why I'm confused about my sexuality, and just to make it clear even when I watch TV and there is a woman with her body showing, I get 0% arousal/interest where as I look at a man and think about how hot he looks!
     
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    Yeah I'm the same, lol. The problem is I can't tell if women still arouse me in real life because I constantly image a penis LOL so I can't fucking tell but I'm sure that in my mind, the penis arouses me xD

    It might be tho that our brains have been desentizied when it comes to women, because I've pretty much seen everything in porn that a girl can offer LOL srsly I used to be a porn addict. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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