Hi, so I'm Fudge and a demisexual. I found this out after researching at late hours of the holidays, it was a recent finding. Lately, I've been interested in finding if there are any other parts of my sexuality I don't know about. Since being back at school I've had my thoughts drift away then I realised that I wouldn't mind if I dated a girl. Seem as though I recognise as female/a girl and straight until proven otherwise, this was a bit unusual. To be honest with myself, I was kinda expecting it. I'm not that interested in boys or girls (demisexual:no sexual feelings unless an emotional bond has been formed), but if I had to perform sexual acts with one, it would preferably be the boys/males over the girls/females who aren't as sexually appealing to me(but I still wouldn't mind). And as for romantic acts, I would go for both as long as we had a connection and it was a mutal relationship. The thing is, I find that I'm straight (no crushes, but I view a lot of people as attractive though I don't want to perform romantic or sexual acts with them, well, until I've formed some sort of bond) but if I was approached by a girl I had a bond with and asked to date, I wouldn't mind saying yes. If it was man, I wouldn't mind. If I fancied someone, and they were a girl, I wouldn't mind. The only thing that I care about is if I have an emotional bond/connection with them and it is mutal. I believe I am either bisexual, bi-curious, questioning, straight or just at an experimental phase. I'm not sure which of these I am, you might not either. Hopefully, you could help me find my sexual identify ~Fudge Extra question: Do you think people can be slightly bisexual? Is that a thing? And if so, is there an official name for it? Sorry for all the questions, bye!
You might have a look here for a few thoughts that might help: Am I Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender? As you said, some people need an emotional connection first... some people say they are queer or pan, meaning they fall in love with a person not a gender... Just take the time you need... hugs
I think a good label for you would be biromantic demisexual (maybe with a preference for guys sexually) However, you know yourself better than I do. Just keep questioning and you will know eventually.
I agree with the person above, Biromantic demisexual sounds like an accurate label, but don't go completely by whack we say. It sounds as if you have a preference for guys, which is completely natural (I'm bi but I have a preference for girls). Look at the Kinsey scale and see where on that you feel you would fall.