Okay, I am a 21 female and thorughout my life I had always thought I was straight. I knew what gay/lesbian was and bisexual while I was growing up. In fact, back in high school there was a girl who was a lesbian(there was rumors about her) and I saw her holding hands with her girlfriend at a Fourth of July fireworks show my city hosts every year. Even then I never questioned my sexuality. I never once judged somebody of their sexuality. I have several friends who are members of the LGBT and I always believed that you should love someone no matter what gender as long as they love you. For some odd reason, in October 2014 I started to question whether or not I am a lesbian or at least Bisexual(one time it was Pansexual) the questioned popped out of no where. I remember that I was sitting down in the living on a dating app and and other social app and I keep seeing updates on new relationships, baby news, baby pictures and engagement rings on every post and it started to popped into my head Am I A Lesbian. I don't know what it was that made me started to question my own sexuality. Ever since that moment it won't leave me alone. I will always think about it all day long. I don't know what's going on with me and I just want to know what I am once and for all. Throughout my life so far, I had crushes on guys. Sure they didn't work out but I still had crushes on them. I almost had an relationship with a guy best friend but he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship. However, ever since I started to question myself sometimes I do get nervous sometimes around women. Like, I started to see what I like about them. Okay, so to be honest women are sometimes a lot better looking than men. I mean, their boobs! I think I may be a boob person and like sometimes I found women attractive when I see one. One time, there was a woman that I thought was cute at a gas station that she works at. She's a total lesbian who reminds me of Shane. She made me super nervous and I forgot to give her my number so I promised myself that I would come back so that I can give her my number. So I did and I gave it to her and we started to text. It started off great but then I got super scared of myself and blocked her and we never talked again. After that, it has happened a few more times with other women. As soon as we get to know each other I freaked out and blocked them because I was scared of myself. There was this girl that I was talking to A month back and I met her off on Tumblr. She lives like 2 hours away from me and we had hit it off. Like, we would talk all day and I would get excited if I got a text from her. One day, I was wearing a rainbow bracelet and my parents saw it and we had a long talk and I told them about her and they said that they will support me no matter what however they think that I am putting myself in a box because I had never had an relationship before which made me think that way and it's not good to be something that you are not. After that things were good. I started to stop questioning myself but for some reason it just keeps coming back and I have NO FREAKING CLUE WHY and I just wanted Adivce. I know that I do not have experience with either gender and I know that I should start experiencing but I am just afraid about everything and I am so scared and I just need help from you guy because you guys give awesome Adivce
Hello! So after reading this, I can see your dilemma and I actually feel your dilemma as well since I'm questioning my sexuality as well. I'm not sure how much help this will be so hopefully it does provide a little insight to you. In general, I came up with theory that all straight people at least once in their lifetime wonder what's it like to be gay. No doubt, people by nature are curious beings so I do believe it is normal that you started to question your sexuity. Sometimes you have a reason, sometimes it's a little more random but at the end of the day both are the same. So don't worry about the randomness. I'm happy to head that your family is very supportive and that you're open that most questioning people. That's a really good step. Remember this stuff takes time so don't accept to figure out your sexuality right away it might come to you it might not but don't feel pressured to label it to yourself or your parents because you're still the same you. Don't think that you're in a box and need to experience everything to see what you like... For exmaple:You turn on the stove and you see fire. Do you touch it? No, but you already know you wouldn't want to touch it. It's the same for sexuality, you might've not experienced but you know what you like. Experimenting is just testing the waters. Questions I think you should ask yourself is pretty General since you don't really have a scale on what you think You are. Can I see myself being married to a man? How do I feel? Now what about to a woman? Can I see myself waking up happily next to a women or men? How do I feel? These are the type of questions you should think about to help. Good luck!
To be honest, there's this guy that I work with. For some reason I am kind of curious about him. I mean, he is kind of cute and he's the same age as me. I have been wanting to give him my number but I haven't had the chance yet. I don't know what this is. And I don't know how it will go. And o have no idea if I will feel the same of this was a girl. I mean, I might it just haven't happened yet. Shouldn't see where it goes?
I honestly don't know but that's pretty much my exact situation minus parents or any relationship involving a girl
Yes, but only if you want to and feel comfortable with it. Otherwise no, you are questioning right so just be aware of your feelings and try not to hurt anyone on the process. Take it light. Good luck
This will probably take you more time to really figure out who you are as you continue to explore your sexuality. Really begin to pay attention to your thoughts, desires. Who are you staring out when you're out in a group of people? If you watch porn, which gender are you checking out? Your sexuality can absolutely change or shift. Sometimes it's not so much of a change as it is just a "discovery." If you had asked me 10 years ago if I were straight, I would have said "absolutely" and not given it a second thought. But at that time I also didn't fully understand what it meant to be gay, and what those little urges were when I was around guys, particularly those I thought were attractive. The same could be happening with you. Continue to update us on what you're going through and what you're feeling.
Okay I will update you guys and thank you so much and sometimes when I am out and about I will look at both if I find them attractive. But idk if I am Bisexual tho. Do you have to have a preference if you are Bisexual?
Nope. No preference needed. Me, I'm about 55% females, 45% males (by sex, gender doesn't matter). One can be 70% the either or, or one can be 50/50. It's really flexible, the definiton is broad. One thing you can always try is fantasizing first about guys, then about girls. Do you get excited by both?
