I can't tell if I am sexually attracted to women. I know I'm sexually attracted to guys and I used to think that was it. But i do enjoy watching gay, straight, and even lesbian porn (sometimes). The only difference is that when not watching porn, I cannot see myself actually having a sexual relationship with any girl I know, interact with, or just walk past because I'm uninterested. However, I could see myself having a sexual relationship with men. I could see myself pleasuring women and getting turned on by it when thinking about women in general and even specific women pornographers. The bottom line is, could I be bisexual? I don't see myself having sex with any girl I've ever met and only girls I watch in porn. Guys there is no question. Question: Gay or Bisexual?
Porn is never a good indicator, so forget about that. just live your life, develop relationships with people, and when you have feelings for someone see what develops. you may eventually find the label that you are comfortable with, or not. don't worry so much, just enjoy discovering and being who you really are. have male friends and female friends, and date someone you are attracted to.
Instead of thinking in binary terms, I would look at it differently.Are you familar with the Kinsey scale? See this article: http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/a/The-Kinsey-Scale-Of-Human-Sexuality.htmmy Kinsey score. Basically, range is from 0- All straight to 3-Exactly equal (me), to 6-Completely gay. You seem like a 4 or a 5. The Kinsey Institute - Kinsey Sexuality Rating Scale
You are probably primarily gay, with a curiosity about having sex with women, but not really a desire to have a relationship with them.
Well for me, I'm drawn more to men from a sexual standpoint because their physical appearance is something I've always (and still do) wanted to see in myself; a big hairy masculine guy that can protect someone. It's funny because I'm the one who needs to be protected lol. But on the other hand, I'm also drawn to women because all my life (and I still do), find myself wandering off with dirty thoughts with women I see passing by. It doesn't necessarily give me a boner per se, but I do find pleasure in having those thoughts. I still desire a relationship with a woman, but now I'm also drawn to relationships with men. I think at the moment, I'm drawn more to men since the concept is still new to me and I want to look into it more. There's just so many examples of heterosexual couples that show how life is, now I want to see how life is with a guy. And as for the porn, don't put too much thought into it. Like I said before, I like porn that consists of guys that look great and that I can put my shoes in. I'd say my porn use is driven by attraction to men and admiration. I can't really masturbate to lesbian porn, since there's not really a place I can put myself in. But I'm okay with that so whatever lol. Porn isn't meant to define your orientation. You can certainly explore it through porn, but don't use it as a checklist.
