1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

I need help

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Bigdog527364, Apr 21, 2015.

  1. Bigdog527364

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 21, 2015
    Messages:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    California
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight but curious
    Okay so this is my first time writing ever about myself. Recently I've been pretty depressed, I had to go to therapy because of hocd, I'm pretty sure it was hocd. Anyways I got better and now it just came back and I've been questioning myself if I'm gay, I REALLY don't want to be gay nor bisexual, not that I have anything against lgbts but I'd prefer not to be. I get scared when I think about even being gay or coming out. Recently I've been finding guys attractive and it scares me because I do. I try to check out girls a lot but I just don't get the same feeling as I used to. I've always been straight I love girls. I brag to my family about having 3 girlfriends at a time even though I've only had two since the 2nd grade I'm a junior and I've gotten close to dating a girl but I usually don't because I find something about their appearance that I don't like. I just need a solid answer to know that I'm straight. I'm sorry if that was confusing by the way

    ---------- Post added 21st Apr 2015 at 04:36 PM ----------

    I also think about experiencing being gay like sex and stuff and it scares me that I think about doing it with no problem
     
  2. RedLynx

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2015
    Messages:
    152
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Philippines
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Hi, Bigdog!

    Firstly, what really is the reason why you don't want to be gay? It's ego isn't it? But anyway, if you really are gay inside, you can't supress it forever. On a hopeful note though, don't come into conclusions yet. Continue to observe your attractions towards both sexes. If you still effortlessly find men appealing, then you could be gay, or bisexual.
     
  3. Jax12

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2014
    Messages:
    1,875
    Likes Received:
    71
    Location:
    Canada
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    OCD and orientation issues are similar in that the problem is resolved by accepting yourself as who you are. You don't have to fit the norm, and in fact it feels good to be different.

    I was scared of my attractions to guys as well, and even though I'm okay with my attractions to guys, it's my attractions to girls that scares me. It stems from the fear of failure and doing wrong. It makes me want to identify as gay more than anything else, but the issue behind that is I'm not gay, and I guess that's how it's going to be.

    I like both guys and girls, and in different ways. That's just who I am.