I always hear the stories about how people have known since very early age or what they did figure it out it was obvious in retrospect. But that wasn't the case for me. I didn't realize that I was a lesbian until very recently. When I realized it I looked back and there weren't any warning signs. I mean, I grew up in a very conservative family I didn't even know what homosexuality was until I was about thirteen so all of my childhood it was never even a question. I liked boys, but I didn't feel anything. I didn't start to feel "things" for people until a little over year ago and since that time it has only been for women. I find myself constantly questioning whether I was right about my sexuality. Not because of my feelings for girls, but because it's happening so late in life. I'm 18, if I was really a lesbian shouldn't I have realized it by now?
It took me 2 decades....but within that 2 decades, I had gone through a lot of confusion. Even believed I was bi and thought I should "cure" it. Thinking about it now just makes me feel too old too.. I'm 31 now. But don't worry too much. It really doesn't matter at what age you realize your sexuality. If you believe it, then it's who you are.
I feel exactly the same! I kind of kissed one guy when I was thirteen and I really thought I liked him but I didn't feel a thing when I kissed him and after that boy have been interested but I have never been interested in them and the thought of having sex with a man is kind of disgusting. So the last year I really been thinking and women are much more attractive than men and rarely find men hot. But I kind of never had a crush on neither a man or a woman so it is hard to be sure, just very confused. But I don't think you got to know it in a early age, we are all very different. I always thought you was supposed to like boys and kind of never reflected that I might feel more for this girl than others do. I never gave myself the opportunity for that. Know when I do I had realize it is beautiful girls everywhere (even if I'm not sure of my sexuality) but starting to get why every straight girl is so crazy about boys! Sorry for long answer
Haha, late? :roflmao: I figured it out at 35! Everyone's different, you know. Just relax, there's absolutely no need to worry. (*hug*)
I was about a year older than you when I figured it out myself. Sometimes society influences us to think we're straight just simply due to the fact it's everywhere.
Icarus, I didn't fully realize it until my early 20s. Some people take longer than others, and it's perfectly natural to not have it all figured out even into adulthood. It may take your several more years to fully figure out what your attractions are, and that's perfectly okay. It often takes quite a bit of experimenting to really see how you feel. Once I kissed (and more!) with a guy, it became glaringly obvious that my feelings were so much stronger with guys and it just felt "right." That's not to say you need to do anything with anybody to know your sexuality, but it helped cement it for me. Anyways, give it time. Pay attention to who your eyes look to when you're out and about. How does a good looking guy vs. girl make you feel? Who are you looking at if you watch porn? Who excites you in movies, in books or on TV?
For some people, it takes years to realize. For others, they know when they're young. People figure out their sexualities at all different times. Do what makes you happy, and if you're happy with yourself that makes me happy
