So you've figured out that you're gay/lesbian. What happened to your attractions to the opposite gender? Were they still there? Were they there at all? You see, I've basically thought I was straight because all my life I would hang out with my guy friends and essentially talk about girls, ranging from sexually appealing to sexual jokes. I've never checked out my friends which is why I never thought I was gay (even though I regularly checked out some male teachers). Now that I realize the majority of my attractions are steered towards guys, I still find myself wandering off to girls. Have I been conditioned to checkout girls? Has anyone else experienced this, or continue to do this?
Umm well, when I realized I was gay, I realized that my attractions to females weren't really full heterosexual attractions. As a gay guy, I can still tell if a girl is attractive or not, and in some cases I guess "admire" the female body, but am just not sexually attracted. Before I accepted it I'd be like, that hoodie looks good on her? Can tell she looks good= Physical attraction=sexual attraction =Love :lol: So obvious I was grasping at a chance to try and be straight. I don't know about the second part because all my friends are girls or are the type of guys not to publically check girls out :lol:
I don't think I was ever attracted to men in the first place. The guys I liked as a preteen were basically crossdressers that passed for women, and that's how I got it.
I always admired girls on a physical level and I still do. I knew I was different ever since I was a kid but didn't know that there was a word for it. I always catch myself looking at other girls that I find attractive but I do think I'm not the only one whether or not you're straight but the sexual part crosses the line. But would I make out with a girl??? Probably.
Thinking back I was not even attracted to women. When I was younger I thought this was strange but then I started to notice my feelings towards guys more and more.
arfff As a gay guy, my feeling towards girls are very limited yes i can have a connection but only in intellectual level (like with my ex fake GF), but that's as far as it goes. I cant feel nor give any more connection to them even when they express that they expect more. Never checkout girls tho, unless a friend asking my opinion then i check her out... already kissed girl twice and definitely feels WROOONG!!! so YEP.,,, I'M GAY
I never felt attracted to women when I was younger...I didn't think much of it until I hit puberty, and I started to realize my attraction towards men...That explained a lot...
I don't feel attracted to guys in the sense of relationships anymore, but every once in a while I'll see a guy and think he's cute or attractive. But that's rare, I usually only notice girls.
I still find guys attractive occasionally, in the sense that they are pretty to look at, I might admire their hair, or their clothes, but I'm not attracted *to* them. It's not sexual, it's just nice to look at pretty things, and sometimes those pretty things are human men. I knew I was different from other women in the sense that I didn't have much drive to be with men, if any, but I assumed I still *liked* men because, well, I did. Just not in the way straight women like men. Do I like having guy friends to talk about nerd stuff with? Sure. Do I want to have sex with them? Nope.
So I'm hearing a lot of admiration and whatnot. Could it be that the reason why I didn't think I was gay until now was because there was legit attraction to girls? Even when I still masturbated to gay male porn, I still checked out girls regularly. Although, I must say that the way I checked out girls back then is different compared to how I check out guys now. ---------- Post added 2nd May 2015 at 06:40 PM ---------- I would certainly love to have sex with a girl, but like you said the drive isn't as strong. Yeah that I think of it, I liked girls but not in the way that my friends oversexualized them. There's also times when I'll think about having sex with a woman and find pleasure from it. Homoflexible/bisexual with preference for guys I suppose? If a girl was attractive and wanted to have sex with me I wouldn't turn it down.
I was utterly clueless about being gay until I was in my mid-20s. Looking back, there were clearly signs but I simply didn't process them. I felt attraction to girls, went out with girls, had several long-term girlfriends. It just never "clicked." Once I realized that it was really guys I was into... the whole picture started to make sense. There are plenty of gay guys who have had sex with women, or who would have sex with a woman just simply to get off, but the sex wouldn't really have any true appeal to it. From what you describe, it sounds like that's where you are.
Some women are gorgeous. I find myself admiring women, usually not my peers but actresses and classy women maybe in their late 20s (I know it's odd, I seem to like older women). I very much appreciate feminine beauty, which I feel other gay guys pass over. And I can tell when a girl is attractive or not, it's just that I don't seem to feel anything. My childhood conditioning taught me to be interested in girls, but never have I been sexually attracted to them. So I do become romantically interested in girls but always fail to be sexually attracted to them. It's more of an emotional attachment and caring for than a physical feeling or sexual desire. Which is why I realize that I'm basically gay. Also because I'm way too interested in guys
I never had any attractions to women ever. Didn't have much in the way of attractions to guys either and didn't realize what I was feeling until college. It never occurred to me to worry about it. I never wanted kids, and decided I certainly never wanted to marry while I was in junior high. Overall I mostly just felt amused contempt for feelings or anyone who placed any value on them. Except anger. Anger I liked a whole lot and got really good at. Todd
Well I'm chatting with a guy right now and just chats alone can get me aroused. Heck, even an older guy in a suit can get me aroused! I guess mostly gay or homoflexible works the best at the moment. I certainly desire a relationship more with a guy now than a girl, so there's that. Thanks for the responses guys, it really helped.
I always went for the girly looking dudes. I recently got into a hottest man argument with a friend at work, and she finally said "you need to game up, you will break these guys, they are all so girly......oh..... that's right!" She totally forgot I was gay! LOL
