When and how did you figure out you were not straight?

Well, I supposed it started when I was about thirteen-ish? I saw a lesbian couple in a grocery store and thought one of the women was pretty and thought I was attracted to her though I didn't mention it and shoved it to the back of my mind.
A couple years later I was online and came across the term 'asexual' and realized that I never really thought about sex so this lead to me researching a lot.
Fast forward to now and I've chosen to just identify as quirosexual or queer for short. Never found a good label so that's that.

 

When: I figured out I wasn't straight sometime in my 20's (but... it was basically "I knew, but wasn't ready to admit it to myself" admitting it to myself/accepting it came sometime in my late 30's )

How: There was no specific moment or anything, I just kinda knew.

 

I've answered this countless times on the forum (look through my previous posts if you're so inclined) but in a nutshell: Had feelings for guys since probably 12-13. Dated women until early 20s until feelings toward guys gradually intensified, wasn't working out with women, and after a period of anxiety / depression / repression I finally came to terms with my sexuality.

 

It's difficult for me to pinpoint when it started, but in a nutshell, I started figuring out that I had some kind of attraction/feelings towards men in addition to those that I had for women when I was about 9 or 10 and noticed the attractiveness of members of both genders, I initially pushed these thoughts out of my mind due to me not believing that I could be anything other then straight, but they kind of stayed just under the water until I was about 14; usually only coming out (no pun intended) when I got the urge to watch gay porn.

My attraction to men started to get significantly stronger when I was 14 or 15, and kept getting stronger and more prominent in my mind until I just couldn't justify denying them anymore. I only came to fully accept that I was bi when I was 16 through; and have been considerably happier since.

 

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WHEN
well the attraction towards guys probably started when i was 9 or so but it wasn't sexual, just an out of ordinary admiration. Sexual attraction started when i was like 11 or 12, my first 'crush' was a senior (i was a freshmen) in my middle school. i started to question my sexuality in my mid 13 and fully accept that i'm gay when i'm late 14.

HOW
Never feel any emotional/sexual attraction to a girl. When girls dropping hint of their interest in me i sort of dont get it, its like they're communicating in a different language (i hear what they say and probably can translate but i don't see/feel the implicit meaning)

 

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WHEN
well the attraction towards guys probably started when i was 9 or so but it wasn't sexual, just an out of ordinary admiration. Sexual attraction started when i was like 11 or 12, my first 'crush' was a senior (i was a freshmen) in my middle school. i started to question my sexuality in my mid 13 and fully accept that i'm gay when i was on my late 14.

HOW
Never feel any emotional/sexual attraction to a girl. When girls dropping hint of their interest in me i sort of dont get it, its like they're communicating in a different language (i hear what they say and probably can translate but i don't see/feel the implicit meaning)

 

I started questioning shortly after I started going to college. I became friends with a guy (also bi) who was browsing Tumblr in class and he came across a picture of what I thought was a girl but turned out to be a guy. I questioned for a few months after that and around January or February I developed a giant crush for my friend that's when I knew for sure.

 

In my early teens i was always curious about other women and their bodies

 

Since I've known that non-straight people existed. I learned about their existence when I was seven. Once when someone mentioned they were getting married I asked if it was a man or a woman.

 

Probably when I was about 9 or 10 was when I had the first inkling. I think it was a TV show or a movie, and I saw this one lesbian couple. I remember thinking that it seemed cool. One thing led to another, and now I'm here!

 

I just woke up feeling Flawless and sang the Beyonce song of the same title.


Nah. I've also answered this many times before but I'll TL;DR this one..

When: Kind of had feelings for shirtless men in movies since little.
How: See above.

 

When: when i was 19.
How: we made love, at that moment, I felt really right about making love with a girl, felt it's so "me". Boom! I found out i'm a lesbian and all the questionns about girls during my early teens suddenly has the answer

 

Always had an attraction to both girls and guys but didn't understand what it was. At the age of 13 I had my first crush on a girl. At the age of 15 I've now dated both guys and girls (but lean towards girls)

 

Well, the first signs of me not being straight was when puberty started (I was 11) and I started feeling sexual feelings for guys and loved looking at their bodies... so yeah. When did I understand sexual orientation properly and that I may be gay? Probably 12/13.

 

Ironically, it was because straight sex disgusted me and frightened me, although I had already found women attractive before

 

I've wondered for as long as I can remember. It probably started like any normal straight person wonders if they're not straight. Then when I started looking at pictures and things on the internet, I found I liked looking at pictures of women more than men, but men were ok too. Then last weekend my bf took me to a strip club which is where I realized I liked it waaaay too much to be just straight. Since then I've been searching online for answers to the many many questions I now have about myself. Thus why I found this lovely forum

 

I had my first crush on a girl when I was 12. And I haven't felt attracted to guys ever since.

 

I really liked the ladies in the porn I was watching when I was 11 and homosexuality was a turn on for me even then. I dated boys when I was 18 but they knew something was a bit off. Started dating girls a year or so later thinking I was bi. About six months ago (I'm 21 now) I really realized I was gay and now I'm dating a really cool genderfluid person. Sexuality is weird.