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Confused. Again.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by questions1, May 8, 2015.

  1. questions1

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    I'm officially hopelessly confused. I know sexuality can fluctuate, but I just wish it would stay put. For the longest time, I would insist on being straight. Two years ago, I met one of my closest friends. I didn't realize it at the time, but she was trying to help me come out. Now, I have no idea. I could totally make out with a guy, which is quite nice, but I need to nix the idea of sleeping with them. On the other hand, I've never kissed a girl, but I've had PLENTY of platonic sleep overs. I don't know..... When will this end?
     
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    I can really relate. I insisted on being straight for a long time, and now I'm just... confused. Tried kissing a woman but it wasn't the right woman.

    I am really not sure where I am.

    But, as people will tell you, stressing over it won't help. (I'm not going to tell you you don't need a label, because maybe you want a label and that's OK.)

    Also I'm sure you will figure it out by the time you're my age! So don't let my comment discourage you.
     
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    You could try fantasizing etc. about both and see if you like it.
     
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    I understand stressing about it won't help. I just feel as if I'm missing something.
    Because of my financial situation, I had to move back home. My family is starting to notice that I'm quite single, and have no want of a boyfriend. Coming from a conservative Christian home, this is pretty much a death sentence, especially because I'm a pastors kid as well.
    There's just been more and more people around me, wanting to know my business, and I just don't know of a good way to tell them "none of your business" without outing myself.