Hello everyone! I'm on here to look for advice on a current situation that's pretty much getting me down and feeling sad. Me and a lad called 'Ben' recently matched each other on ****** (dating app), however my profile was in the wrong section and came up as a women. Curious as to why, Ben swiped right and asked why. we exchanged a few messages and seemed to get on. i asked if it was fine to get to know each other, he said sure because he was looking for new friends anyways. He clarified that he was straight, and he knew i was gay but was cool with it. We spoke for a little more on the app, and decided to exchange numbers and social accounts such as instagram. We seemed to click and get on, i got to know him more and he got to know me. Spoke about work, friends, family & of course sex life from his point of view and from mine. It was just casual talking, i began to enjoy talking to him, he seemed a laugh. After about a week of talking, i thought give him a break cause i'm probably annoying him talking so much, but he said i wasn't and said 'dont push it ' then we joked around about what would happen if i did, seemed abit flirtatious but i always respected he was straight. anways, i said message me when you wanna talk and left it at that! 3 days went by and i hadn't heard from him, however i posted a video on instagram pissing around he liked it, so i thought 'everythings cool' between us. then the 5th day, my dad got taken into hospital ill (he's got a disease thats killing him day by day) and i just needed someone to talk to tbf. i messaged Ben, joking that i hadn't received a message from him and asking whether he was okay. within 30 mins, he blocked my number, social media accounts and completely ingored me :/ so i text him, and rung him(never spoke over the phone) or anything but i was that pissed off that i did. I've messaged other straight lads and they keep saying maybe it became to much for him talking to another lad? maybe he started to develop feelings, or began to enjoy talking to me and in his head it was wrong and crossing a 'line'. Him blocking you, is probably his way of saying that's it hes out my life, i don't have to worry and everything will go back to the way i was. i just don't know what to make of the situation? others have said maybe he got a gf or whatever, but i don't get why that would affect him talking to me :s. I've sent him several messages when i've been pissed off, but now feel asthough if people are right and his heads messed u[/confused then me ranting wasn't the best thing to do :/ any suggestions or advice on the situation? i just dunoo what to make of it, and what's best to do tbf :/ just pissed off now, just miss talking to him, clearly as a 'friend'.
scared of what though in your opinion? i feel as though i'm looking to far into it, but other people keep telling me I'm not :/ so confused.
It's really hard to make a conclusion, but in my opinion, the guy got scared! Scared of what, you may ask? He got scared that you're unlocking him. Free from his established straight guy image. It must have freaked him out when he found out you're having this power over him, and thinking that blocking you out of his life will do anything.
its so annoying didn't want any power over him, or for him to feel asthough i was trying to unlock him just started to get comfortable talking to him, like i said just being 'friends'. it's confusing cause i remember one of the first things he said to me was 'do you talking to many in the closet' and now i think of our situation now, but i know hes been with 3 girls and had sex with them. i'm literally so fustrated and its been a week. me personally (although i feel i look into it too much), i genuienly believe hes straight, but for whatever reason talking to me has messed his head up. but then i dont understand why because i never tried it on with him, i always respected he was straight and never pushed any boundaries that i would with other straight friends. hard to understand what went wrong when the lad won't talk to me atall.
