Hiya, I'm new to this forum and literally just registered, but I've been feeling like I need to ask somebody but I didn't know who. So, I've turned to a forum in hope for advise. I am 16, female, and I've had sexuality thoughts for a while. About two years ago I had a bestfriend how was a lesbian, and one thing led to another and I ended up falling for her. We were together for over a year so things were serious. We had a sexual relationship as well as a romantic one so I experimented quite a lot. She was my first ever sexual partner, and since then I've had others which were males, but never found the same connection? I don't know whether it was because I felt so comfortable with her so everything worked out better or what. She's the only girl I've had a relationship with, and ever since I've kinda thought that I couldn't feel like that about another girl and put it down to a phase and just experimenting. But I still feel sexually attracted to girls? I get turnt on by lesbian porn a lot more than straight, I still like it but with lesbian it's so much better. I'm so so confused on what I am because I really like guys and talk to guys etc but there's still something there with females. Am I bisexual or just curious? HELP
Hmm I pay way more attention to men than women. As I read your comment about my preference being women my heart dropped, does that mean anything? I feel like I like guys but maybe there's a sexual attraction to guys? I don't know I'm so confused. I wouldn't say my preference would be to women it would be to men but I don't know anymore
One thing to keep in mind, it is possible you relate more to the women because, well, you are one. So seeing them pleasure one another, you can understand that on a level that you may not with a male. Lesbian porn also has a heavier emphasis on oral sex, which many women seem to love, and straight porn doesn't always do and, if it does, may do a terrible amount of it, with more focus being given on the male. This isn't the case for all lesbian or straight porn, but it is more than enough to mention it. If a woman was your first sexual partner, it stands to reason, you will hold this in a slightly more special category. You may have if it was male, but it happened to be a female, so this adds to the allure. Sure, you could be bisexual, which it seems you have some leaning towards, but that is something you will have to settle on. And even if you were bisexual, you can still have preferences for one or the other, and it can switch and change. It's about the potential, really. Just some other things to consider and think about. <3
I mean, I don't know, I can only make a guess from reading what you posted; which is why I posted that your preference could be for women. But I may be wrong. Through, I am not sure what the heart dropping thing could mean; it could mean a lot of things.
As in, I didn't want to read it. Like I really don't want to be that way. My opinion has always supported homosexuality but for me, I really don't want to be. I don't know, I was like upset that I could like women? I'm not sure, I think I've always thought of that relationship with the Gil a phase and it wasn't anything serious
Hmm, that's common actually, in the process of discovering one's sexuality there tends to be the instinctive thought of "no.. I can't be" that runs through your mind whenever you think of the matter or see/read evidence that supports that you are indeed are *insert sexuality here*, leading to eventually accepting that you are indeed are etc.; that could be what it is. Of course, you are the only one that can truly figure yourself out, but the evidence you provided from what you posted leads me to believe that you do like women; and the fact that you said that you are still attracted to women in at least a sexual way also leads me to believe that your relationship with the first girl probably wasn't a phase of experimentation. Of course, I can't tell for you certain what you are and am not here to try too; just offering the little advice and thought that I can give.
Thank you for taking the time to give advise, it means a lot. I'm sure I'll work things out as life goes on
