Q for gay bottoms - where do you actually feel physical arousal?

That's a great question. I personally feel it in my anus, and if uou get it right, you can stimulate the prostate as well. However, the movement of the object in your anus is very pleasurable.

 

I've got to agree with Norcal. I feel it in the anus, and if the prostate is hit right it feels great. Personally, the feeling as something actually enters or exits in a sexual way feels great. If I'm aroused, I feel it in genitals and anus though. There is no mistaking the different feeling in the arousal of the two areas. And trust me on this, an orgasm from anal stimulation is MUCH different from an orgasm from genital stimulation. Both amazing, but very different.

 

Well I got analed I'm not sure what to think of it. It's not as pleasurable as I thought it would be (maybe because he couldn't find my spot), so I can't answer the second part of your question.

As for romantic atttaction, I'll admit that in the beginning I couldn't see it happening, but it's much more possible now since I've done some digging. I actually love kissing cuddling more than anal. I'm one of those guys who aren't really into anal all that much (but will want it once in a blue moon).

You could be similar, or completely different. Can only get so much from a post, you know?

 

I just enjoy the stretch in my rectum.

I have felt romantically attracted to men, but it doesn't happen often. Also, the two men I have been with are terrible kissers.

~ Adrienne

 

Yes, I enjoy the feeling of fullness when playing around with my dildos. I guess I don't feel sexual pleasure very much outside of when someone or something is inside of me.

Adrienne, be nice to us bad kissers.

 

If I understand the question correctly. Any physical pleasure is from my genital area but when aroused any kind of anal penetration serves to increase any pleasure in my genitals. The stretch feeling/the 'full' feeling specifically.

 

At the OP, I'm currently in a relationship, and I personally (as well as him) find cuddling and kissing very fun, and happens more often (seeing that anal kinda requires a bit of time haha) but yes, I kiss my boyfriend and I love it.

 

I am a huge fan of affection in general too e.g. snuggles kissing things like that and im proud lol. anyways yh agreeing some others here, the 'full' feeling and ummmm being filled up...! am I allowed to say that...
cant say more than that really aha, I find the whole idea of sex awesome really, does take time but I can make time :icon_wink :***:

 

The answer to your questions is "Yes." There is no "correct" way to be gay, that would be like asking someone is there a "correct" way to be straight. Its normal to like the stimulation, the filled up feeling, or not like it at all. There are tops who don't like to be penetrated, which is why there a top, and there are people who absolutely love being penetrated, and they would be a bottom. Then theres vers, who do both. So, its completely up to you. Not every gay dude has anal sex. If you don't like anal sex, that doesn't mean your any "less gay" than someone who does like anal. What I tell people about the LGBTQ community is that we are nothing different from the heterosexual community, minus the fact that we like the same sex. There are straight people who like anal, there are straight people who do BDSM, and all of the kinky stuff thats generally associated with the LGTBQ community. So, if you aren't sure if your gay or not, think about it this way. (I'm rather black and white in this section) If you like dudes, and your a dude, then your gay. If you like dudes and girls, and your a dude, then your bisexual. If you like girls and your a dude, but is curious to try stuff with a guy, your bicurious. Once you act on that bicuriousness, and you like it, then you can move on to seeing if your gay. I understand where your coming from though, I once thought I wasn't as gay as others because I didn't like anal. Its a hard thing (lol, pun intedned) to deal with, because you hear all of the stories of anal hurting like a motherf**ker. Which it does, until you get used to it. Then its amazing.

Sorry for the huge wall of text, and the rather to-the-point words. I get carried away when I write, and I think that happened here. No offense was meant

 

Straight guys are capable of liking anal too, it's called pegging. Everyone likes different kinds of sexual acts/positions/etc. Gay people are no different than anyone else, and yet we are all different from each other, just the same as everyone else. Does that make sense?

To answer your first question, yes there is a physical pleasure I feel in both the front and the back when I'm aroused. There's a sort of swelling feeling back there, and it becomes sensitive and pleasurable to touch.

To answer the second question, yes I am very much romantically attracted to men. In fact, that's how I know I'm probably gay or bi. I'm somewhat sexually attracted to women, but I just, don't feel anything emotionally when I'm with them. But with guys I get those butterflies that everyone talks about, I get shy and embarrassed around the ones I find attractive, I want to hug them, cuddle, and all that cute stuff. Heck, even just the thought of kissing a guy gets me aroused. So yes, I am romantically attracted to men. Very much so.