I really don't want to pull out the ''huge biographical post'' thing so I'll try to make it quick. Since I was 6 I remember wanting a big guy to protect me and hug me and stuff which I know doesn't necessarily mean anything about sexual/romantic orientation (and I was 6 so it could really be non important) but I've still always counted that as an evidence that I've been gay for a looong time. I actually started to really feel homosexual feelings when I was 11 (still an early age but that's how things went) and that's how things were. At 13 I came out to my best friends (both boys) but they were really supportive so it was really nice. At that time I started to develop small and subtle feelings for girls in a way that wasn't close at all to how I felt about guys but it was still something so I told some friends and for a while I considered myself bisexual, but that lasted just a short time and then I felt like ''Ok, I'm gay and that's cool''. I really DON'T want this to be taken like an offense or something 'cause if I feel it's important to mention it then I will: I considered myself a bottom almost since I started to feel attraction to boys, and that's how things were until January of this year when I started to feel more and more attracted to the other side of things and suddenly bottoming was not my thing and topping was. Also with time I started getting tired of guys and all gay guys I've met been kind of boring and stuff. NOW, two weeks ago I suddenly realized that I was straight, out of nowhere. Kissing guys I've always wanted to kiss now seemed gross and let's not even talk 'bout gay sex, and girls suddenly became attractive and sexy and everything I wanted. I've realized that if a guy is cute (not handsome, not hot, but cute in like a non masculine way) I would still want to kiss him, not as much as before but it would still be kind of nice, but I wouldn't have a relationship with him or sex 'cause that's not my thing anymore. So, I don't really know what's the point in doing this thread but I guess I just wanted opinions or something? Or you know... If some of you have gone through something similar your experiences would be kind of nice. I'm trying not to bother myself too much with this and like whatever my minds chooses to throw me I'll make it work but it's still kind of confusing and like coming out again is so embarrasing ._. I guess that's pretty much all so peace~
Hmm. Maybe you're bisexual. Or maybe you're gay but you just haven't found prince Charming. The idiot may be stuck in a tree or something, you know.
sometimes the best way to figure it out is to try it out. whatever you decide, its what you need to be for you.
I went through that stage too when I wasn't attracted to the same sex and I was like I'm straight again! Then a week later I met a girl and was like lol nevermind so not straight. Well the point of this was to show you that it might just vary on who you're attracted too. Like the first post mentioned, you might have not found your prince charming yet and you're going though a "dry stage" as I call it. Now I don't want to shut out the idea that you might be straight but I don't think its likely, you could be bisexual in my opinion. Just honestly take your time and don't rush another label just yet. Hope this helped!
I can't tell you how you should identify, but from reading your post it sounds as though you might be bisexual. For many bisexuals, attraction fluctuates between being extremely attracted to one sex with little interest in the other and vice versa.
I've gone through a couple of short periods in the past where men / gay porn etc.. were a total turn off - and - thinking about being with a woman / watching straight porn was a turn on. I don't know what caused it exactly. Certainly curiosity and the fact that I've never been with a women came into the equation - but also - Maybe boredom, maybe hormonal changes, maybe a bit fed up with the gay dating scene, maybe feeling emotionally drained from a recent negative gay dating or relationship experience, maybe loneliness, maybe a deep down fear of missing out on great love or sex because of being close minded toward straight experiences, or all of the above, who knows. Even now, I think if a very attractive woman propositioned me - I would be hesitant but I think open to the experience. I wouldn't go out looking for it though. And I think dating a woman would be out of the question ... it just wouldn't feel right.
You might be bi. I would avoid getting into a serious relationship right now because you are very young and your attractions may shift back toward men down the road. Being bi does not necessarily mean that you will always have 50/50 attraction. You may lean more toward one sex than the other
Yeah. You are very young. But it sounds from your post like you are pretty sexually experienced already? At least with men? Maybe you have done too much too fast? Maybe there is boredom and wanting to seek out something new? Idk the possibility that you are straight is probably a thin possibility, but that might be the case. You might be bisexual. Or you might be gay and in a slump. You will figure it out. I do think you are right to just go with how you feel. Just be with whoever you feel like being with and if it changes just go with it. You are young; you have plenty of time to figure it out.
Well sexuality is fluid and can change for some people. If you feel and consider yourself straight now, that is fine. Seems kind of hypocritical for people to say you can't be when we all know that a straight person that feels gay in the future is allowed to identify as gay.
hey, i've heard of a gay guy who has sex with women for the sake of it, the women know and tend to say "not bad for a queer" lol. Do what's right by you in the end, I mean how many "straight" men do we know that sleep with a man now and then?!
Thanks for the comments and stuff I know I'm young so I try not to worry about it (or anything else) too much. But it is so confusing haha. There's a guy in my class that's like basically hairless and blonde and pale and has blue eyes (and I live in Latin America so that's not that common) and I've known him for months and like yeah he was cute but now I feel he's adorable BUT I wouldn't date him or anything, just thinking about it feels weird. I feel my mind's just throwing random stuff at me right now. But still, relaxed~ It's no big deal. I don't plan on dating anyone soon so don't worry dwelefan AND for bicomplicated (and I fear that I wont be taken seriously now because of this but whatever) I've never had sex and to be honest I've never done anything resembling sex in any way. So... there's that. Peace~
Lol ok! Well that is good. Idk I guess I just read the way your post read wrong. That can happen. But yeah, don't stress. Just be you.
