Sorry if this is not the correct place to ask this, I am new to this topic and wasn't sure where to go. Additionally it is somewhat long so I'm gonna have to ask you to bear with me here. Background: I'm a 21 year old male and am wrestling with some issues regarding my sexuality. I have only been romantically involved and sexually active with women. I am strongly attracted to women and enjoy having sex with them very much. Additionally through some of my relationships I have developed sincere sentimental and emotional feelings as well. When I see an attractive woman I can instantly feel myself physically drawn to her as any heterosexual man would. However I find that I have somewhat of an odd attraction to men as well. Unlike women, my attraction to men is strictly sexual. I do not find the idea of cuddling or kissing a man attractive in the slightest. Nor could I ever see myself engaged in a sentimental relationship. This is not due to social stigma, I'm just not attracted to them in a romantic manner. When I see men in public I can roughly tell if a man is handsome or ugly in a very objective manner however I would not say that I find certain guys "cute" or "hot". I am however excited by the idea of performing certain sexual acts with men (oral sex, hand jobs). When I see men I don't even care much what they look like, I just find the idea of engaging in a male on male sexual act exciting. (unless of course the individual is extraordinarily grotesque) Also I occasionally masterbate to gay porn and find it to be a turn on. So what I'm asking is, am I bisexual because I would be open to certain gay acts? I am aware that sexuality exists on a spectrum so it may appear that I just lean more strongly towards the hetero end of things. I'm hoping I could get some feedback from others in the community to see what you think. Thanks
Hey there! Welcome to EC. This is a perfect place for your question. I would say you probably do fall into the bisexual category because of your curiosities. I would explore your feelings for men further - maybe get with a guy and see how you feel? If you're still certain that it's something you enjoy, you could comfortably call yourself a bisexual. This is a very, very common feeling that comes with the territory of discovering a possible new sexuality. I'm not trying to tell you that you're wrong; you know yourself better than I do, but you should be aware that this feeling is normal, and that as you gradually accept your sexuality, you may find that you're more open to a romantic relationship with men, so don't close off that possibility completely.
Hi there! That happened to me but opposite way. I always liked men romantic and sexually but few years ago I started feeling sexual attraction to women. Just that. Until I fell in love with a girl, and I considered myself bisexual, though I prefer boys. Good luck!
Agreed - until I met my boyfriend, I never thought I would actually be able to be in a relationship with a guy.
