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Dating a guy? what?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by myexperiences, May 29, 2015.

  1. myexperiences

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    I'm 99% sure I am bi. At the very least, I have gotten off on gay porn probably 3 times a week, and have been seeing this one guy for about a year now, probably 8 visits total. The last 3 have been fairly recent and felt like breakthroughs. So I've come to really accept that it might be fact, after this last week and a half. At the very least, I have had these experiences, and enjoyed them :eusa_danc

    I'm also a dateless kiss less virgin when it comes to the ladies. (Too shy until college, and never tried) But I have always identified as very much straight in this area. I don't know if I could see men in that light.

    Still, I'm very interested in trying to date men, and in general, exploring the rest of the iceberg that is my sexuality. But I feel like I'm so predominantly attracted to women that I'm probably not going to feel the feels when with a man, you know? In the last year of being bi I haven't really thought of men like that. So I'm wondering who has been at this point before, and what happened. Did the romantic part come later? Of course, I've never been in a romantic kind of situation with anyone before, so I guess I don't know.
     
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    Dating men is rather different than dating women. For one thing, guys tend to take longer to get attached to their partner, and are much pickier about who they date - at least that's been my experience. We are, however, much less picky about who we sleep with - or at least we usually jump to it quicker. If you're used to straight dating, it takes some getting used to, because there are social norms in straight dating that just don't apply. I find most things in my relationship tend to be more of a shared partnership because we both don't have gender-role expectations.

    As for the confused part, I was in your shoes a few years ago and completely get where you're coming from. For years I thought I was bi and leaned toward women. For you, this very well could be the case, it also might be that you're repressing feelings toward men. Or maybe you like men physically, but not romantically / want a relationship with one.

    It can take years to really figure out who you're attracted to and why. I'm still trying to nail down my attractions - though I have a much better idea of what they are - and they're seldom the same day-to-day. One day I'll see a hot chick and go "damn." Other days, she won't even register and my boyfriend will be the hottest thing in the room. It depends wildly on my mood and what's going on.

    Anyways, if you want to talk, vent, etc. shoot me a message.
     
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    Me exactly. Like damn, today when I was shaking a girls hand her hands were so smooth and soft, like silk, and as my fingers slowly left hers, I found myself in awe.
     
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    Well I was talking to a guy on ******* today, and I got that feeling in my chest that I get when I talk to cute girls. I think it was the same feeling.