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Am I gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by kellynec, Jun 4, 2015.

  1. kellynec

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    I used to be straight... 8-14 years of age exclusive straight attractions.... could only get turned on by girls and women in real life and online (porn)

    During that time, I think I'd seen over 1000 videos... every category I could think of...

    Now I'm 18 and have been questioning my sexuality...

    I've been feeling more gay gay gay gay gay and gay everytime I think of anyone sexually... it's usually crossdressers that are REALLY feminine that turn me on.
    Meaning, if I couldn't hear their voice, I would definitely think it's a chick. lol

    Girls just do nothing for me any more. Can't masturbate to them as they don't turn me on any more. I find that they're way too skinny, and I'm talking about average girls.

    Girls in porn doesn't either... I've been thinking about if Women's Physique Competitors' do and it's been sometimes yes but sometimes no... Same for some massive FBBs...

    Should I quit watching porn completely and wait???
     
  2. brainwashed

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    Wanted you to have at least one reply. Cant really say if you should stop watching porn or not. (I'm not a porn watcher so cant relate.) Try living life for a while (without port) and listen to your inner voice.

    Keep a log (notes) and ever so often write down how you feel.

    Ask what you fantasize about?

    One last tip. Stop trying to label yourself. Explore and discover then conclude.
     
  3. Peacemaker

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    I also think you should just explore who you are for a while, turn down the porn and live life
     
  4. James Beamer

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    I am surprised how many posts there are about people questioning their sexuality when they experience no crushes, experiences or physical intimacy with either sex.

    Porn preference does not define your sexuality! Porn choices statistically are all over the place and plenty of straight people watch gay porn and vice versa. In general there porn has very few redeeming qualities and do nothing but distort your understanding of sexuality - trust me I have suffered from this most of my life. Result was massive erectile dysfunction, confusion, doubts, etc. A whole group of young people experience sexuality through porn first and not real people and I believe that is the wrong order.

    So first, stop watching porn completely - quit it. Stop masturbating to porn thoughts, just sensation if you need to. Then see who you develop crushes on.

    I have been girls all my life, but eventually needed more and more stimuating porn and shemale porn was my preference. Totally screwed me up...which is why I am here. I still may be bi/gay despite being exclusively with women, but I wish I never discovered that poison.
     
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    I have to agree, porn doesn't define your sexuality. If I define myself as Pansexual and I only watch lesbian porn, that doesn't make me a lesbian. It's my real attractions that define my sexuality. I might watch lesbian porn because I find it exciting but I don't watch it because I'm only interested in girls.
    I think society pushed men to think that watching two men is bad. But what about watching two women? Or a transgender? Why isn't that bad?
    I really think that you shouldn't read too much into it. Just let yourself explore who you are attracted to in real time rather than just on a screen.