This isn't an advice thread but more of a "why did I do this to myself" thread. I remember within the first month of being on EC, I openly admitted that I had some flexibility but still identified as a lesbian, and no one (including myself) thought anything of it. I felt 100% comfortable in my sexuality. My question is why did I suddenly re-question myself? This is not me asking about how I should identify.
If you want the short and sweet answer, here it is: Life sometimes makes us think about things. Now, whether this is a good or bad type of thinking, that depends. But it can serve as a way to grow, and to better know and cement your identity. You know what you like when you see it, so if anything causes you to double take or wonder, look for what drew you in. I suspect you being a very curious-minded woman, are going to analyze and question things, and that's fine. It's one thing about you I quite like, because it means you have a great mind.
Maybe you feel like you don't fit in with the lesbian community anymore, since a lot of people are really judgemental there. Or is there some sort of shame involved?
Thanks Kaiser You are awesome as always! Falling, I still feel very much a part of it. Yes there probably is still some shame deep down but I'm making progress. I do feel bad about calling myself a lesbian but I don't feel like I'm bisexual. I don't know if that makes sense at all. Sometimes I wish I could come out to people using the Kinsey scale, like in my profile because if people are familiar with it then it's fairly self-explanatory. But the majority of straight people have no idea.
You shouldn't feel bad calling yourself a lesbian if that's what you feel you are. I mean, I'm kinsey 6, but I still feel that 5's are well within the homosexual category. A bisexual would be more so in the 2-4 category (depending on preference). You might feel some slight attraction to men and I might feel none at all whatsoever, but we're still part of the same label and community, and I feel no one should change that.
Thanks It's nice to hear someone say that. I guess the one issue I have left is do I tell a future girlfriend or keep it to myself? I believe in being honest but at the same time don't want to be rejected.
