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pretty sure I'm not gay, butt...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by curiositygotme, Jun 8, 2015.

  1. curiositygotme

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    hey everyone! this is my first post so please go easy on me :slight_smile:

    I'm a straight guy and i like anal play when i masturbate. I've been doing it for about 5-7 years now, i started as a sophomore i wanna say in high school. up to the last 2 years or so, I've never thought about anything more than just toying myself but lately I've been craving real anal sex from a guy. I've talked to a couple guys about it on other anonymous sites and apps and they all say nothing feels as good as the real thing.

    idk what i am, but i would take it, and suck off another man. but i couldn't give it or get sucked by another man. i just don't know what that means for me and if anyone has thoughts about my situation please let me know what you think! :slight_smile: thank you to everyone in advanced for your help!
     
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    Hmmm, sounds a lot like me oddly. There are a few people on this board who post this *exact* same scenario. No desire to fuck a man, just to get fucked. Weird.

    Few questions:

    1) Have you been with any women? If so, how was that experience? For me, a lot of ED problems.
    2) What kind of porn did you start watching? Did you "escalate" to gay porn? Shemale porn?
    3) Have you had any self esteem problems? Issues being dominant in bed or being assertive? Any abuse as a child?
     
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    yes I've been with 5 girls, 2 of them were long term relationships and 3 were hookups. i know I'm attracted to women, I've never looked at a guy and thought about them in any way. (please nobody judge) but I've never really liked straight porn because i didn't wanna see another dick. but then it did 'escalate' to shemale and now i do watch straight porn. but i change it up. no i haven't really had any issues, no beatings or anything. but i also sometimes really wish i was a girl while I'm watching porn.. and thinking about it, i really just think it's a pleasure thing for me.. like i just want as much as i can get.. i know i can't be the only one in the whole world so i came here.
     
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    Sounds like you yearn to be a bottom and be submissive in bed. That's perfectly fine, a lot of guys are. As a bottom, just because you're being penetrated, doesn't mean you can't be dominant as well - that's called a power bottom.

    Sexuality isn't fixed or binary. It's not like "you have to be X, Y, and Z to be gay." I know gay guys who hate anal and giving oral, and straight guys who like it. I would have a look at the Kinsey scale, it makes far more sense than trying to pigeonhole your sexuality & desires into some kind of category.
     
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    Iv'e seen a trend on this forum the last few months. The trend is, label and choose my sexuality rather than experiment and discover.

    When you first started walking, did you say to yourself, I'm a marathon runner and only a marathon runner. I would say of course not, probably didn't even know what a marathon runner was nor how to train for one.

    Experiment a bit so you can discover who what you like.