1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Feeling so much better! Almost ready to tell everyone i think!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by steve123a, Jun 12, 2015.

  1. steve123a

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 31, 2015
    Messages:
    18
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Birmingham
    Gender:
    Male
    Hi,

    You may have seen my post from a couple of weeks ago, i thought i would just create an update post.

    Im feeling much better, very much thanks to your help. I now spend most of my time thinking i'm gay but then occasionally have odd thoughts like "did i find her attractive" which i know understand are completely normal, the answer is always "no" and I'm fully aware its my brain just trying to not let change happen. I've also had thoughts like "i know i don't find women attractive and straight porn is just gross, but i bet if i was really with a women i could make things work" which again i understand now is just my brain trying to go into denial. (i am right in thinking this aren't i?)

    Zoosk has really helped as i have had chance to talk to people on there, i don't intend in meeting them, just to talk and fell more comfortable with it all.


    also this https://www.lebonbon.co.uk/wp-conte...photoshoot-matthew-lewis-35571172-800-533.jpg has helped no end!

    Im now feeling better and better and am certain at some point soon i will stop questioning myself entirely and just get on as a gay man. (anyone know where i can get a clone of Matt Lewis?)

    Thanks for your help.
     
  2. PatrickUK

    Advisor Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 25, 2014
    Messages:
    6,943
    Likes Received:
    2,359
    Location:
    England
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I think you need to keep doing what you are doing and just let the thoughts come and go for now. As time passes and you become more comfortable with the knowledge that you are gay, you will see the thoughts pass much quicker and eventually cease altogether.

    Just to reassure you... being gay doesn't mean that you cannot acknowlege attractiveness in the opposite sex, so don't be shocked or surprised if you recognise a pretty woman from time to time. I have no doubt about the fact that I am gay, but at the same time I am not totally blind to female beauty. It would be silly to think that all gay men must be absolutely, 100% repulsed by women.

    Keep being kind to yourself and don't panic. You are doing much better than you imagine. :slight_smile: