Hey there! Well, I'll start by telling you a little about myself. I'm a 14 year old girl, so yes, quite young. I'm really confident, loud, and, well... flamboyant I guess you could say :icon_bigg I'm not really terribly popular in school because I am very over-the-top at times, and I guess that I'm a little too much to handle for some people, and I get that. I am a dancer, and have been for 10 years, so I've grown up around A LOT of gay people, even if I didn't realise they were gay. It sounds cliche but I've always kinda known I was different, I just didn't know how. All throughout my primary school years I was never terribly attracted to boys, and all my friends where going nuts over them. It still happens today, and I feel like I'm kind of left out. I mean, I find boys cute, but I've never really known what a 'crush' feels like. But recently, I've kind of started to notice that I think I like one of my best girl friends, and it's making me feel really weird, like, I don't really think this has happened to me before. Like I don't even know what a crush feels like, so I don't know if I like her as a close friend or something more. I'm feeling reaaaallllyyy confused and starting to think I might be bi. Idk, because I read a lot of stuff saying "A lot of teenagers start to feel sexual attractions towards different sexes," so I feel like I'm telling myself that this will pass, but I don't know if it will. I've told this friend that I've questioned my sexuality before, but I told her I'm not anymore, because I didn't really think I was. I know I can trust this friend, and I want to tell someone, but I feel like I shouldn't yet until I know for sure. Problem is, I don't know if I ever will be sure, so I don't know what to do. I don't even know myself, and I want to talk to someone, but I don't want them to give me a label until I am confident with that label myself. Argggh what should I do? Thanks guys, really just needed to vent (*hug*) Love Eliza xx
Hey, Welcome to EC. :icon_wink As you said yourself, you are still young and have plenty of time to figure this out. You don't need to label yourself really, not now not ever, if you don't want to. Personally me, when I was 14 I started dating and that's when my journey started. :icon_bigg so basically you are on your path to self discovery. Remember we are here to help, good luck.(*hug*)
You seem familiar, did I travel back in time & post this? When I was 13, I started to play around with bi label. It felt strangely reassuring, even though it wasn't quite right, because it was a start. Admitting your attraction to your same gender is a huge step & a relief. Right now you're exploring your identity, which is great! & like MyLittleWorld said, there's no pressure to start labeling yourself as soon as you start to question. (*hug*)