I'm a 28 year old man who for the past five years has been struggling on whether to label myself as bisexual or straight. I've had sex with both men and women. I tend to be more attracted to the latter than the former sexually, but I enjoy LGBT spaces more than heterosexual ones. When the confusion first started to arise, I tried to look for resource but only tended to find pornography or bisexual resources for women. I told some of my friends that I was "bisexual". But I always regretted it, because they probably think its just another phase in my life or that I'm really a gay man in denial, so I stopped labeling myself as that way. As a adult, I want to be honest with myself. But I also don't want to flip-flop on my identity. Even if I did "come out", what would become of my life. It hard enough being a straight man and find a date for Saturday night, I feel adding Bisexuality to the mix would only make matters worse. I have no idea what to do.
For a long time I thought I was bisexual. It can be a tough label to live with, because many people, both gay and straight, won't take you seriously. I can relate to the feeling that you're just complicating things unnecessarily. But I think that if that's truly who you are, denying that part of yourself will only make you miserable. Also, if it's more comfortable you could just forego labels altogether. Love who you love, have sex with people you're attracted to, and if anyone asks you can explain in whichever way you see fit. You don't necessarily need to come out with a label, you can just tell people you're attracted to men and women. Maybe that doesn't quite work for you, but it's something to consider.
Thanks for the response. I've never been a "labels don't matter" kinda guy. I feel that a category (or label) would put me at ease as a oppose to existing as someone without an orientation.
