Okay so I admitted to myself that I'm gay, but I haven't come out yet because I feel I have to "prove" it in order to be sure. So basically what I do is looking at every single girl I see around and trying to figure out if I might be attracted to her, which doesn't make sense because straight people aren't attracted to every single person of the opposite sex they see on the street. But still, I can't help myself. Has this ever happened to any of you? Like you felt you had to prove that you were gay by trying to see if you were attracted to every single person you saw?
I kinda had that, but my mom was the one who wanted me to 'prove' I liked girls by asking if I liked this girl or if I thought that girl was hot and if I said no she was all well honey you're a lesbian. So eventually I started doing it to myself. I don't know, it was weird
haha yes I did this for a while. Every time I saw a woman and wasn't attracted to her I thought "oh maybe I'm not gay after all" even though I knew i most definitely was. Although I had admitted to myself that I'm gay, I think I still hadn't fully accepted being gay on a subconscious level. I don't know that was just me
I definitely had that feeling. If you have OCD tendencies I suggest you stop. It will just make you way more confused. I've convinced myself that I'm straight doing that.
I understand not wanting to come out until you're totally sure, but you're never going to prove to yourself that you are in fact a lesbian that way. You have to stop or you'll drive yourself insane. There's no reason you need to rush into coming out or putting a label on yourself. My advice? Wait until you have a serious gf. Then you'll know for sure and it will make the coming out process easier.
I kind of know how you feel. When we know we are gay we kind of just know. There really is no way to prove yourself unless you get a girlfriend... Honestly if you think you're ready to come out then you should. Holding it in longer can really suck. Some people might not take it as well if you're in a serious relationship with some girl and then you tell them as they may feel like you don't trust them. It also sucks to have to hide your girlfriend from everyone. You can't hold hands and kiss in public due to the fact you might get caught by someone you know, and you also can't bring her places with other family members unless you want to introduce her as your friend. I don't know it just seems like hiding it would be unpleasant to me.
