Do you have to experiment to know?

Ummmmm how about being honest with the person you are with.
Let's say you are with a guy. And you are "romantically" into him. How about telling him that girls turn you on.
This goes both ways.
Let's say you like having sex with a girl. Or two. How about telling them that you are "romantically" more into guys.
Don't worry about abandonment. People will understand. People REALLY appreciate honesty.

 

Hiya Becki (*hug*)
I guess, congrats on a coming out that went relatively well?

I know sometimes you just want to hear a definitive answer, but I don't think there is one here. I can't tell you you're heteroromantic pansexual and shouldn't date women. I do believe it's possible to know without experimenting, but maybe for you it isn't. It's about asking yourself the generic questions: Could I date a girl? Could I fall in love with a girl if she were absolutely perfect for me? Would I want to be close to her, would I feel butterflies, etc? But maybe you just don't know, and that's fine.

In that case, you should probably just keep your options open... maybe some day a girl will come along whom you're really romantically into, and then you'll know you're capable of a relationship with her. Or maybe some day it will hit you that, no way, you're only romantically interested in guys. The understanding will come, it just might not be right away.

You mentioned your fear of abandonment, but the truth is, it's okay to have failed relationships for whatever reason. If you're not convinced you're into girls, then you should be upfront about that when entering a relationship with a girl... But if you do that, then it's fine. Enjoy yourself and, if it doesn't work out, you'll have learned something from it.
I know, it's not as easy as I make it out to be in this post.

 

Hi becki i am on the same boat. Always been attracted to grls never tried being with pne. I am in realationship but i dont know how to make everything happen without hurting him. But at the same time i cant wait to try with a girl

 

I don't think you have to experience to know, but if YOU feel like you need to, then why not?

 

I always like guy's did not have to have sex to know.

 

And I dont know whats the smartest thing to do in that case. Cause i like girls and guys equaly and my bf is soo homofob that makes me mad

 

of course not you don't have to experiment. But it does help a lot of you do . hand on experiment does give a lot of insights.

 

I don't think so at all. I know that I am attracted sexually and romantically to men and women, about the same. Granted, I have never had any form of sex so that aspect I can't give info on.

But you don't have to experiment, experimentation can help but I don't think its necessary.

 

I don't understand the whole Romance ether .....this is hard to talk about, but any ways I guess that's part of why people just thought of me as a confused lesbian. any how I know that I did not see my self in a relationship, with a girl or could not think about having sex , with a girl I but for some reason I still find them well some to be cute.

 

yes, cause I could use one how nice.

 

Well i decided to experiment i dont want to wait my whole life.. So i just need to find the girl now

 

Not necessarily, but it did provide me with some more clarity of my what my atttactions meant. Some people just know, while others need to experience it first hand. After experimenting it was more clear to me that I liked guys.

 

i don't really know the answer to your question, but i just wanted to tell you that i love your profile pic