So, for most of my life, (which isn't saying much--I'm only a sophmore) I never doubted my sexuality. I thought I was straight, like almost every other girl I knew. I've had crushes on a few guys before. About 2 years ago, I had a sexual(ish) dream (not going into details) about one of my friends, who is a girl. Ever since then, I have been very nervous every time I'm around her, and I'm not sure if it's actual attraction or if I'm just making things up. A little while ago(about half a year ago) I started to question my overall sexuality. Am I gay? Am I bisexual? Am I straight, and all of this is made-up fluff in my head? I can't stop thinking about girls - kissing them, being in a relationship with them...I get a weird feeling in my chest when I look at girls I think are cute, but I can't tell if I'm creating the sensation in my head or if it's real. Girls are on my brain 24/7. I've looked back in my past and I can kind of see places where I might have shown some signs of liking girls, but I still can't tell if I'm making this up or if it's real. I know this is mostly something I have to figure out for myself, but I really wanted some help. Not sure if this will do anything, but... Guys, I'm just SO CONFUSED!
quick question - you mentioned "like almost every other girl i know" and from the whole post it sounds like you're a girl...just want to make sure i'm answering your post properly as your description has gender listed as male. if you are a girl - it sounds like you might at least be bisexual, if not gay. I want to say that most straight teenage girls don't think about girls 24/7 as you've described and think about kissing them etc...although, i'm not positive because similar to you I thought about girls a lot during my teenage years as well haha. but later in life i started to realize that i was making comments about girls much more often than my straight girl friends and thats when I kind of realized that i'm probably bisexual... do you have any close friends that you feel comfortable talking about this to?
Sorry, I forgot to clarify that. Yes, I am a girl, and I do have a few friends that I am comfortable talking to.
Sorry, I forgot to clarify that. Yes, I am a girl, and I do have a few friends that I am comfortable talking to.
Your confusion is understandable and it is possible taht you are just living in a time where changes happen and it is okay.. let the thoughts flow freely and that way you will be more clear about how you actually feel about it if there were no labels... what do you like more? that is all. dont pressure the label, unless that is what is bothering you. and just let yourself explore
