I'm really confused right now. Up until a few months ago I was completely gay, and I never doubted that aspect of myself. But I didn't really like being gay, the more time I spent in the community the less I liked what I was. Then fast forward to two months ago and now nothing makes sense. My sex drive is practically non existent, the feels that were so clear are muddled. Now I don't know how I feel about anyone. There are a few guys I come across that make me feel different, but around girls I get an anxious feeling. It's like I'm supposed to be with them. I'm convinced that guys are not meant to love each other. What felt so right a few months ago now seems so wrong when I imagine it in my head. But imagining the same with a woman just feels "correct" or what should happen. I have no idea what to think anymore or feel. How can it just drop like that? To be so certain and now this?
Hey, I have had similar struggles (I'm questioning by the way). Could it be possible that you have started doubting yourself for some reason? Maybe you started wondering what if I'm straight.i think a lot of this depends on how old you are and how long you have been out for. There is a slight chance that something changed as sexuality is fluid or that you discovered something new about yourself....but I wouldn't completely count on that being the case. I think you have probably been thinking about this deeply lately and it may be a good idea to take some time off and just let thoughts come naturally...don't force them or dwell in them...let them come and go....I think time should tell. Good luck!
It was reading about sexual fluidity that made me this way. I've been out for about 5 years and two months ago a lot changed. But my brain is very analytical so it's hard just to not think about it.
yes well i would get excited on men im a guy but the same sex is kind of hott to do sex with im not sure why but i gues the dick maybee the sex with women ,its different too i gues confusion on it ,well the attraction part im atttracted to women too ,but the vagina is different than a guy of course but then i feel better connected with man emotionally i think but with women on my mom it was hard to connect with emotionally or to be on same page is this why i like men but sex isnt love
*Ahem* Your comment is extremely offensive to many people, bisexuals in particular. It's fine to be any orientation, gay, straight, bi, transgender, etc. The list goes on. It's not just about accepting your orientation. Rather, it's about accepting yourself as who you are. I, myself, am very fluid, although most of the time I feel kinsey 4/5: mostly gay, as it were. Some people may feel the same all their life, or same may move around on the scale.
I apparently am a Kinsey 4 according to some online tests (I'm not an expert at what exactly this means). When I was growing up (before 12) there is no question I would identify as straight. Whether this was my true intuition of just some kind of societal brainwashing, that's all I really considered. Yeah I had guy friends and could be awkward around guys and girls, but being awkward was just me. I'm not sure what struck me, but slowly I began to think that I might be bi. No, I did not have a girlfriend, nor really want one, was this normal I would think? I did dabble into porn at some point. This started purely as women, but gradually migrated to couples. I could see myself being the guy and then I would think, am I turned on by the sex or by the guy? Eventually, this turned into purely watching guys only. Not sure of the exact date, but it was over 10 years ago. At this point, I feel that I know I'm gay because men turn me on. I appreciate my relationships with women, but I would not want to have sex with any of them. I've seen great looking guys nude and girls nude. Nothing happens with girls, but with guys I can't look away. Don't get me wrong, I would have no problem giving a girl a compliment on her good looks, that is something I can see, but if she tried to have sex with me, my doors would be closed. I'm not sure I'd have the same restraint with a guy that I was into if I knew he was gay.
