Hi, I feel ready to begin coming out to my close friends and perhaps family, who I know are accepting. However, the one thing holding me back is the possibility of me telling them I am gay, only for this to change. I am asking as when I was around 11/12, I was probably around a Kinsey scale 2-3, but only had purely sexual attraction, predominantly to girls. Over the following years, I have slid along that scale to a 6 and now only feel emotional and sexual attraction to other boys. It has been this way for a few years but I worry it may continue to change. I am paranoid that my orientation may keep changing after I have told people I am gay and then be left explaining why I am seeing a girl in a few years, so, my question is: can sexuality change? As a footnote, I have never been emotionally attracted to girls, only sexually but have experienced both towards boys. Thank you!
Yes sexuality can change. You don't have to come out with a label. You could just tell people that right now you are attracted to guys.
I agree with XenaxGabby!! Ofc it can change. For example, I've considered myself being a lesbian before I 'switched' over to calling myself bi bc that fits more these days. And I came out a second time kind of lol And actually what bad things would happen if it changes? You can compare it a bit with your movie taste maybe. It won't stay the same for your whole life but it's also possible that it does.
I agree with those two people. And yes, it can change because sexuality is a fluid. I went from being pretty straight to bi and now I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian. It just takes a lot of time to figure out, but once you do it feels so refreshing.
Thanks for the responses, I was pretty much the same (straight-bi-gay). However, I have passed the point of no return now and told 4 of my close friends... they are all very supportive and say that is doesn't change how they view me (relieved isn't the word).
I think not only sexuality can change, but you can consciously influence in which direction it does. I used to think I was straight. Then I developed a desire for androgynous guys, and now I'm developing a "taste" for muscular men. Having been "straight" a few years ago, I have lost almost all sexual desire toward females.
