Bi or lesbian?

I know this has probably been posted a lot, but I'm going to try this anyways.

So recently, in this whole trying to figure myself out thing, I've had trouble finding a fitting identifier. I don't exactly feel like I need one but it does make things a tad bit easier.

In any case, I generally umbrella myself under gay. I would identify as queer, but it doesn't exactly fit me either. I would continue to go with bi, but it's more of a security blanket of my former self. And I tend to shy away from lesbian because I didn't grow up in that identity, so part of me feels like I'm not allowed.

See, I grew up attracted to both men and women, being a typical teenager with needs and picking what was around I dated men. There weren't any bi or out lesbians to date and discover that way. So I grew up thinking I must be bi.

Now, however, I am in a relationship with a women and I love it. And it makes the most sense. It feels natural. And I can't see myself being involved with another man.

That being said, occasionally I find some men attractive. It's like "omg they are ADORABLE!!" Or wow they are kinda hot. But I could never sleep with one, and my attraction for the most part stops at their face... Maybe their clothes too.

Also I tend to face more feminine men, or of the goth/alternative variety... Those who wear more eyeliner than I would know what to do with...

But I'm not attracted to male parts, and I don't want to play house with one. I want to make a home with a woman.

I suppose a lot of the confusion is because, I can't exactly relate to my girlfriend. We have different out experiences. As we all do. But I've only be "out" for. A year and I feel like maybe I'm not allowed to identity a certain way because I don't fit in to all the little boxes...

And maybe that part should be in another thread.

I guess I'm just curious if, knowing all those. Am I bi? Lesbian? Pan? Idk.