Lately I've been struggling with my sexual orientation and I just wanted to see if anyone went through anything similar or has any advice. My backstory: I am in a relationship with a guy but identify as a bisexual. When we have sex and do other things of a sexual nature I always feel disconnected... Like it gets really personal for him but I always feel like I am far from that. I do feel the emotional connection because I really care about him but the physical part is just a little confusing. When I was younger I was sexually assaulted and it influenced how I get off with guys. I can only come when I feel like he is exerting power over me.. ditto with straight porn. I am really confused. Just wondering if anyone has any advice/helpful links/advice. Not sure if I am lesbian or need some more therapy. Cheers, hal
have you always identified as bisexual? and have you ever been with a woman sexually/romantically to compare with the feelings you get now with your boyfriend?
To answer your questions: a) Not always, I started identifying as bi last year. b) I have not been with a woman romantically, but I have kissed a girl c) The reason I started identifying as bi is because I started to be sexually attracted to one of my friends, and for the most part only watched (and still watch) lesbian porn.
Hello I can relate to the feeling a bit detached during straight sex, for me it was probably due to my sexuality. But because you have experienced sexual assault, your disconnection could be a consequence of that, rather than it being due to your orientation. I think it might be necessary to maybe talk to a specialist about the assault- because generally people here are not really qualified to make a judgement about it. Do you feel attraction to other people apart from your friend? What about other men?
